Too often the expectations of behavior in a job are more defined and articulated than the expectations of a personal relationship. This is not to say that people don’t have assumptions and hopes for their personal relationships, but rather they are not often clearly stated.
This lack of communication and clarity can lead to a lot of misunderstanding and reactions of hurt, anger and sadness. My guides state that everyone should ask three questions when engaged in a relationship, whether personal or professional.
They are: How would this relationship be if it were ideal according to me? What am I willing to work with if it is not ideal? And what is unacceptable?
When these questions are answered by both parties, then you see where you overlap and where you have different desires and aspirations. This process puts the cards on table, so an honest assessment and dialogue can determine a path for the future.
