When I was in my early twenties, I lived in a communal house. It was a large Victorian residence, with enough room for the seven people who called it home. There were many aspects of living in a small community that I enjoyed, taking turns cooking, making music together, and having long conversations into the night. The problems started when many household chores and responsibilities went unattended. The situation didn’t improve with group meetings and a shared plan, because follow-through was often lacking.
I was sad to move out, but my resentments grew, and eventually, the negatives outweighed the positives. I distinctly remember meditating on my dilemma and hearing, “The community you desire will not be a reality until it is a necessity,” I remember this now as we all face a global pandemic. At this time, community has become crucial. Our situation requires us to be flexible and work together for the common good. The current coronavirus is reminding us that we are all interconnected and that we all need to rely on each other to survive and acquire basics of life, food, health care, and social connection.
My hope is that this widespread virus that continues to cause a tremendous amount of suffering and has made us all vulnerable will eventually contribute to a positive worldwide restructuring. Our priorities can change, motivated by a renewed understanding that if we don’t support the most vulnerable among us, all of us will be at risk. Although we have borders separating counties, a virus doesn’t recognize these distinctions, and therefore all nations need to work together for human safety and global wellbeing. A virus is blind to nationality, race, religion, and economic standing. This sudden, dangerous, and upsetting event is a wake-up call to shift our emphasis toward concern for the whole world and global cooperation, rather than emphasizing competition and valuing material possessions above spiritual principles.
So many people are accustomed to pushing and goal orientation, merely trying to fulfill and express their desires, without enough consideration for others. From my perspective, individual well being must honor interconnection and is a dance between directive qualities, such as striving, talking, initiation, leading, and receptive qualities such as allowing, flexibility, listening, and patience. The lack of cultivation and appreciation for the receptive principles is a significant cause of imbalance and turbulence in our world. Now we are being forced by circumstance to learn receptive attributes.
Many of us are now sheltered in place, struggle to find basic supplies, and working at home. We can utilize this time for reflection, innovation, and the cultivation of acceptance. While simultaneously putting attention on details without rushing, such as hand washing for 20 seconds, packing or unpacking food with care rather than being hasty, and all the while working to maintain the give and take necessary to keep close quarter relationships harmonious.
Life has become more precious, as well as food, water, shelter, and our relationships. We can learn to consume less stuff and find new ways to be creative and fulfilled. I have heard stories of families singing more with their children, reading together, and making up games. Parents and children are working side by side at the kitchen table as they turn their home into a school and workstation. My sister-in-law is sewing face-masks for her regional hospital, and our local farmers market is handing out food and allowing people to pay online when they return home so that everyone can stay a safe distance apart. Amid great suffering, there is trust, caring, courage, and devotion. Whenever humanity faces a big challenge, a time when fear is predominant, there is also an opportunity to elevate our lives.
There is no doubt that this pandemic will be more difficult for some than others, but we can all deepen our compassion, play our part, and strive for a cooperative global community. Out of a shared human struggle can emerge a greater desire to serve humanity and to help make the world a better place. When fear and pain expands, there forms a more profound understanding of how tough life can be. Yet the silver lining is the development of compassionate souls who desire to help alleviate hardship and distress in its many manifestations.
Herbert Benson brought meditators into a laboratory at Harvard Medical school over forty years ago, scientifically proving that there is a mind-body connection. He discovered something that has been understood in many ancient traditions, that during meditation, dramatic physiological changes occurred, such as decreased heart rate and the lowering of blood pressure, even brain waves change to the relaxing theta waves. The scientific term Benson used for meditation was the relaxation response. His important work has contributed significantly to the common knowledge that the state of our mind has a considerable impact on the health of our body.
The mind-body connection is real. However, there is also a body-mind connection. The health or lack of health of our body also affects our emotional well being. Many years ago, I had a client whose daughter was diagnosed with severe anxiety. She was put on medication to calm her down, even though she was only in elementary school. I knew that her family lived in an area where Lyme disease was an epidemic. So, I suggested to the mother that a Lyme disease test would be wise. The girl’s Western Blot test came back definitively positive. Not surprisingly, once she was taken off anxiety medication and treated successfully for the Lyme disease, her anxiety stopped.
When a person is physically unwell, some form of apprehension, discouragement, or fearfulness often follows. I recently experienced the body-mind connection when I had a hyperthermia session. This therapy temporarily brings the body to a fever as a way to boost the immune system. As my temperature started to rise beyond normal, I observed myself becoming anxious, even though I understood what was happening to my body. It was fascinating to watch my emotional response to my physical distress. Children can be particularly vulnerable to the body-mind connection when they don’t understand why they feel unwell. Just think about a child who throws a temper tantrum when all they need is a nap and snack. Even this common occurrence is a manifestation of the body-mind connection.
The toxic state of our world compounds this natural phenomenon. All of us are exposed to viruses, bacteria, parasites, mold, heavy metals, pesticides, herbicides, and a massive amount of poisonous chemicals. Our bodies are being overburdened by an unprecedented toxic load. Children, in particular, are vulnerable to toxic exposure, because their bodies are small and developing. Toxins pass to a fetus in the womb, and every generation has more exposure to harmful substances than the last. Therefore, it is not surprising that more and more children are diagnosed with depression, anxiety, and learning disabilities when the underlying cause is physical.
Medication for anxiety, depression, and learning disabilities can mask the underlying physical cause. When children manifest these issues, first check them for toxic exposures and nutritional deficiencies. Remember, there is a body-mind connection.
What can we do to help children gently cleanse poisons out of their bodies? First of all, be aware and work to protect them from toxic exposures. Whether it is mold in a basement, amalgam mercury tooth fillings, food with pesticides, or plastics that outgas. Because a mother forming a child in her body will pass toxins on to the fetus, women planning to have children would be wise to detox and fortify their bodies in preparation for forming a healthy child. I wish I had known to detox before my pregnancies.
When I was young, I remember my father telling me that if I ever broke a thermometer to call him immediately, because the mercury contained in the thermometer was hazardous and could make me sick. But then he took me to the dentist who put amalgam fillings containing fifty percent mercury into my mouth. Cultural conditioning blinded my father, a scientist who unintentionally added to my toxic load. I tell this story to emphasize how hard it can be to protect children in a world that often has dangerous practices and confusing information available to the public. As adults, we need to become thoughtful and conscientious to protect our children from this toxic world.
Read labels and purchase natural products for skin, hair, laundry detergent, and cleaning products, to name a few. When buying furniture, new carpet, or an automobile, learn about how they might outgas chemicals. I remember when my former landlady wanted to replace the carpet in my office. Before I let her, I researched the rug that she chose and learned that it would outgas toxicity for five years. I convinced her to let me purchase cork flooring instead. We all need to be on our toes and not make assumptions that everyday products are safe.
Encourage children to drink lots of freshwater to flush their system, as well as to eat fresh organic fruits and vegetables when possible. Fermented foods will support their gut elimination function and pay attention to whether toys, mattresses, bedding, cookware, and household products contribute to a toxic load or support a healthy body. Of course, running around outside and getting exercise will help children to sweat and detox through their largest organ, the skin. Don’t let children skimp on sleep, a time when the body will naturally detox. Teach healthy habits and educate children to avoid toxins, through learning to discern healthy food and water and environmental choices that help them and the world stay healthy.
Extensive detoxing should be done under the supervision of a qualified health practitioner. But many things can be done at home to support the body’s effort to neutralize and break down toxins for removal when ongoing exposures are not more than a system can handle.
I once knew a young boy who would throw a temper tantrum whenever his socks felt lumpy or when his pants felt tight. After being tested for heavy metal exposure, it was determined that he had an unhealthy amount. After using Chlorella for several months, a gentle approach for detoxing heavy metals, he could get dressed in the morning without a fuss.
There is now much discussion and fear about climate change, a concern that I share. A less talked about problem is global poisoning. There is a classic story about a frog that illustrates this problem. A frog placed into boiling water jumps out. A frog placed into cold water slowly brought to a boil does not jump out of the pot. This analogy applies to global poisoning. We are all impacted, especially children and future generations, but the effect can be slow and multifaceted, causing many to miss the seriousness of this problem. I suggest that paying attention to the growing number of children put on medication for anxiety, depression, and learning disabilities is a red flag that more detoxing for children is needed.
By the time my daughter was in second grade, it had become clear that she was having difficulty learning to read. This was so confusing because she was clearly very bright. At age two, she was memorizing books that I read to her and making up elaborate stories of her own. In fact, when she struggled to learn to read, she just kept making up stories while insisting that she could too read.
With testing, she was diagnosed as having dyslexia. Which is a general term that involves difficulty with learning to interpret words, letters, and symbols, but simultaneously acknowledges that this disability is not a reflection of intelligence. Once my daughter’s problem was identified, the tutoring began. She was tutored for years by many people with many approaches. She even got to the point where she had memorized the phonics rules, but still could not apply them.
Sadly by fifth grade, my daughter was still having difficulty reading. Of course, not having this vital skill affected her entire school career, as well as her school social life. At home, I continued to read to her. Her love of books and the gifts they gave grew exponentially. While at the same time, I continued to hunt for solutions. This was the mid-eighties when awareness about learning disabilities was not as developed as it is today.
I pleaded with several headmasters of local private schools in our area, asking if they would please admit my daughter, but none of them were prepared to handle a girl with extreme dyslexia. There was an all boys-school near our house devoted to helping children with learning disabilities, but they were not open to change. Everything I tried was unsuccessful.
Homeschooling was an option, but I felt unprepared to manage my professional career and educate my daughter, even though fifteen years earlier, I had participated in a class-action lawsuit that helped homeschooling become legal in our state.
Then one morning, I received a phone call when my children were at summer camp. An unfamiliar voice on the other end of the phone said, “Hello, my name is Elizabeth Verrill. I have recently moved to your area and heard that you are looking for help for your daughter. May I come over to your house to talk with you about how I work with children?” Of course, I was intrigued and hopeful. I invited Elizabeth to come for tea on the following day.
Elizabeth Verrill had worked with children with learning disabilities for decades. However, she stressed that once she learned the Tomatis Method, she stopped using all other approaches for helping children. She explained that Alfred Tomatis was a French ear, nose, and throat doctor who had a father who was an opera singer. While Tomatis observed singers, he began to theorize that people can only sing what they can hear. He created a listening device called the Electronic Ear to help expand listening capacity. It was said that he could bring a singer to perfect pitch.
Tomatis also observed that children who had learning disabilities often sung off-key. When he began using his electronic ear to help children improve their singing, simultaneously, their learning issues would improve or resolve. In 19898 when Elizabeth Verrill started working with my daughter, she was one of the few practitioners in the United States. We were incredibly fortunate that she came into our lives.
Elizabeth taught us that everyone’s hearing should be right ear dominant and left ear supportive. This pattern develops because people traditionally speak out of the right side of their mouth, causing the right ear to hear a louder voice. Alfred Tomatis discovered that children with learning disabilities were left ear dominant at some sound frequencies. Therefore, when my daughter used the electronic ear, she wore a headset with the right side volume slightly louder than the left to correct this imbalance. Mozart and Gregorian Chants were used, but with low frequency sounds filtered out of the music. This part of the protocol is associated with the fact that babies forming in their mother’s uterus only hear high-frequency sounds. Tomatis found that reverting to high-frequency sound helps to heal birth and emotional trauma. Also, he contended that the ears are the entrance to the brain, and with the aid of the electronic ear, the brain could be exercised to improve its function.
The more I learned about Tomatis, the more it felt right for my daughter. I pulled her out of school and let Elizabeth Verrill home school her every morning five days a week for one year. At the beginning of their time together, Elizabeth handed my daughter the book A Wrinkle in Time by Madeleine L’Engle and asked her to read the first few pages. As usual, my daughter held the book up confidently and made up a story, pretending to read. Elizabeth made an audio recording of this demonstration. Thanked my daughter and then began their work together. Sometimes my daughter knit while listening to the high frequencies of Mozart. Other times she did math puzzles or looked at books while the filtered music filled her ears. In between the Tomatis sessions, Elizabeth would tutor basic reading and writing skills.
Halfway through their year together, Elizabeth again pulled out A Wrinkle in Time and asked my daughter to read the first few pages of the book out loud. This time she read some of the words on the pages and quickly made up the rest. Elizabeth said, “Thank you,” and put the book away. At the end of their year together, once again, A Wrinkle in Time was put in front of my daughter. This time she read all the words on all the pages without any mistakes. Elizabeth had recorded all three readings and brilliantly played them for my daughter. Her response was, “How did you keep from laughing?”
After her year of dramatic change, my daughter entered one of the most academically demanding middle schools in our valley. There is no question that the Tomatis Method was responsible for my daughter’s journey from being teased for being stupid in elementary school to beginning her long academic career.
My son had a different story. He did not have a learning disability, but by third grade, it was clear that he was underachieving. Elizabeth recommended that he come after school two afternoons a week for Tomatis sessions. At the end of his school year, my son’s third-grade teacher remarked that he had made the most significant leap, intellectually, socially, and emotionally of any child in the class. Once again, the Tomatis Method deserved the credit.
Over thirty years have passed since Elizabeth Verrill, and the Tomatis Method transformed my children’s lives for the better. Fortunately, appreciation for Alfred Tomatis’ work has grown. Now, this method for helping children is available throughout the world. To learn more, go to tomatis.com.
I recently read an article about the benefits of mindfulness training in schools, written by Anne Trafton. “By definition, mindfulness is the ability to focus attention on the present moment, as opposed to being distracted by external things or internal thoughts.” Certainly it is advantageous to learn to concentrate without being preoccupied.
It has been demonstrated in a number of studies that people feel less stress and fewer negative emotions when they are taught to practice mindfulness exercises. This sounds wonderful and hard to argue with. However, the aspect of mindfulness training that I take exception to is that these exercises emphasize being in the moment, rather than being focused on the past or the future. I understand the thinking, after all too often we are regretful about the past and anxious about the future.
Yet from my perspective adapting the popular phrase “be in the moment” is a problem. Our individual and collective history is rich with knowledge and lessons. Understanding the past can help us to not repeat mistakes. Holding a vision for the future can help us to stay the course during the ups and downs on the way to manifesting our aspirations. I am concerned that the popularity of mindfulness will facilitate short term benefits from the message of “be in the moment,” while creating long term problems. The negative side of this conditioning could influence people to avoid important issues in their personal lives as well as worldly concerns.
It is true that sometimes reality is difficult to face and can be stressful. Nevertheless, is it not better to provide tools to navigate our challenges that encourage problem solving and resilience, instead of fostering the idea that attention on the past or future will bring stress, fear, and distraction. In fact, I am a big proponent of teaching focus and concentration, but not just on the present moment.
In earlier journal entries I have referred to my understanding of the chakra system, which exists in the aura of every person. It is made up of seven centers of energy aligned from the top of the head to the base of the spine. Each center represents a different part of our nature. The third eye chakra in this system is located in the middle of the forehead and is the center of wisdom and focus and concentration.
When people are taught to focus they activate this center. Whether it is focusing on their breath, a focal point on a poster, or concentrating deeply on reading a passage. Focus and concentration not only prevents distraction it also activates good judgment. When the past is observed with focus, personal memories or historic narratives can be observed through a wise lens. Plus the ability to make good decisions is enhanced, a quality needed for planning appropriate details for the future. Rather than emphasizing being in the moment, let’s practice focus and concentration techniques as better approach to antidote and prevent regret or anxiety.
This might sound like splitting hairs, to some, but actually I feel this is a vital point. Focus skills and the wisdom of the third eye will provide the benefit of mindfulness training without the downside.
A number of years ago, I gave a lecture about this concept to a group of high school students. I asked them to close their eyes, while they recalled a memory of a difficult situation. At the same time, I told them to observe their emotional reactions to that circumstance. Next, I instructed them to tap the middle of their forehead as a way to help them find the location of the third eye chakra. Once they found that spot, I told them to put all their attention there while recalling the same memory. I wanted them to feel the significance of the third eye for themselves. After my talk, a male student rushed up to me looking amazed. He repeated again, again. “I wasn’t angry when I was focused out of my third eye.”
Focus skills can help us to develop good concentration and emotional balance in the moment, but they can also be a way for us to review past situations to gain insight. The current moment, the past and the future can all be perceived and navigated more wisely with honed and practiced focus skills.
“Your children are not your children.
They are the sons and daughters of Life’s
longing for itself.
They come through you but not from you,
And though they are with you yet they
belong not to you.” – Kahlil Gibran
When my two children were small, they each had their favorite books. The books that they wanted me to read to them over and over again. They never seemed to tire of the same stories and often memorized many of the passages. My son loved Ming Lo Moves the Mountain, Everyone Knows What a Dragon Looks Like, and The Story about Ping. My daughter, on the other hand, loved biographies of Martin Luther King Jr. and Helen Keller, any story about overcoming adversity and service to humanity.
Today my son is a Chinese scholar, while my daughter is a professor and counselor focused on helping people navigate challenges in their lives. I tell this story to emphasize the importance of carefully observing and deeply listening to children, for they will reveal how we can best guide them.
A child entering into the world has so much to learn. Practical skills like reading, writing, spelling, computer technology, but they also have the task of finding their way in the world, their purpose. How can adults in their lives best support and guide them? What skills and knowledge are important for children to acquire collectively and as individuals?
The word education in Latin means “to draw out from.” However, all too often, children are seen as empty vessels that need to be filled with information. I propose that we ask, “Who is this child, and what skills will they need to fulfill their purpose?” Of course, all children need to learn basics, but skills and talent can be applied in many directions. If I had insisted that my daughter learn Mandarin, it would have been frustrating for her and for me and a waste of time.
Years ago, when I lectured about education, I often told a variation of the story The Animal School by George H. Reavis. This allegory is about the dangers of standardized education and the ignoring of the unique qualities of each individual child. My version included an imaginary school whose students were a rabbit, a bird, and a fish. The curriculum in the school included running, swimming, and flying. The rabbit, bird, and fish were all expected to master all three. The rabbit was a great runner, an ok swimmer, but terrible at flying. He spent all his time trying to learn how to fly. So much so that he became a mediocre runner. The bird had to work very hard to learn to swim, weakening her natural ability to fly, and the fish spent all his time trying to run and became a poor swimmer.
Of course, it would be ideal for each child to receive a completely individualized education, but we know that this is not practical in crowded schools, and when teachers are often overworked. However let’s not underestimate the power of perception and words, or even handing a child a single book on a subject that enlivens and motivates that child in the direction of their passion and purpose. My most memorable teachers were the ones who recognized my inner nature and steered me toward knowledge and experiences that helped me to manifest my strengthens.
There is only so much time and energy in a day, and yet our world has become more complex, and with these changes, our expectations of children have increased. In order to lessen their burden, it is important for teachers and parents to be detectives, looking for clues in behavior and conversations that reveal the fundamental nature of a child. When a child is inspired by their interests, he or she becomes a willing and enthusiastic participant in the learning process.
Our philosophy of life, or in other words our fundamental attitudes and beliefs form the foundation of our lives. Every aspect of our life is built upon this base, the quality of our relationships, the work we find meaningful, even our day to day decisions. Although our underlying philosophy is tremendously significant, many give little thought to how our attitudes affect our practical daily life circumstances.
For over forty years my spiritual teachers have been remarkable individuals residing in the spiritual realms. Through my clairvoyance and clairaudience, I have been able to see and converse with these extraordinary beings. When they first started to teach me, every time I spoke in a generalization I was corrected until I started to become self-observing and self-correcting. It was emphasized that the inaccuracy of generalizations lead to much confusion in our attitudes, which then translates into inappropriate actions.
Since the early days of my training, I’ve learned to pay very close attention to how people speak and write and have discovered that expressed generalizations are all too common. Whether they involve attitudes about a whole group of people, believing that gentleness is always best, or that if we are loving to others they will be loving to us.
Telepathy is the language of communication in the spiritual realm. Imagine knowing the thoughts of all the people around you and having all your thoughts revealed without speaking. No one could manipulate or pretend to be other than who they are. All our motivations, fears, and loves would be exposed. Here on earth, our thoughts do influence our lives and the environment around us in significant ways, but not as quickly or as completely. We need to rely on verbal and written words to express our thoughts and how we give voice consciously or unconsciously has great power. Words can heal, words can harm, words can motivate, words can discourage, impacting the quality of all our relationships. I often feel that words are very much like knives or fire. They are important tools, but if misused they can quickly turn destructive. Let’s all remember to mind our words!
If reincarnation exists then life keeps an accurate scorecard. There are always consequences to our actions, cause, and effect. No one really gets away with anything.
When I was personally able to embrace the concept of reincarnation, everything changed for me. I took on a deep and committed responsibly to think and act in a principled manner. When someone at the bank gave me too much money when I cashed a check. I returned the extra funds. When I was in a meeting and was asked to express my opinion, I did so with honesty even though I knew what I had to say would be unpopular. My life’s motivation became one of living with integrity rather than being focused on getting what I want at the expense of others. I grew to see the interconnection of everything, just like in nature. In fact, people are part of nature and are governed by the same laws whether we know it or not.
Imagine a world where we all make it a priority to actualize our best.
Sometimes people have poor health habits, such as smoking, a poor diet, or lack of exercise, and not until a diagnosis like diabetes or asthma are they motivated enough to make changes necessary for health and well-being.
Many cultural environments support misguided priorities, such as poor food quality, medicating the public, and rewarding greed. And just as with personal health, our communal well-being often needs to become extremely unhealthy before necessary changes become a prime concern.
My guides have always told me to stay current to address issues as they arise. But when problems and imbalances are left to develop over time, consequences have an enormous impact on us individually, collectively, and our environment.
Over the years, I have observed that many people feel overwhelmed by personal, political, and global concerns and as a result avoidance becomes a primary strategy for coping. Avoidance causes small problems to turn into large problems.
What do we do? The first step is to look and not avoid. Whether this means getting on a scale to monitor your weight, or being mindful of how you spend your money. All our thoughts, words, and actions have an impact. We all vote with our feet every day.
Last week I was driving to an important meeting while feeling some distress because I just didn’t feel physically well. I decided to pull into a parking lot for a short meditation. In the stillness of my mind, I asked for help. I reached out to my spiritual guidance for healing.
It didn’t take long before an elegant man in etheric form dressed in a dark colored robe appeared on my left side. I certainly recognized him, because this wasn’t the first time that he had come to give me healing and support. With my eyes closed, I soaked up the light and vibrational energy he sent my way until I felt completely rejuvenated and ready to enjoy and fully participate in the meeting scheduled to start in fifteen minutes.
My motivation in sharing this story is to remind all that read it, to reach out for help when needed. We are not alone. Over and over again I have been told that the beings of light in the spiritual realm wish to help those who help others. Just reach out!
In two days my new book THE INFINITE VIEW will be available to the public. The journey to bringing the stories, and ideas contained in this book to a wider audience as been a long one. I have had three literary agents and many opportunities for publishing that fell through at the last moment. My guides told me that they were holding me back until the time was right.
I received a wonderful confirmation of my guides’ message when I discovered that when my current agent, who was successful in bringing my book to publication, first came to NYC she lived on the very street where I had my spiritual awakening. What are the odds?
From a spiritually attuned place timing is essential. Spirit’s timing and our timing is so often different. Once I was told wait until all the dominoes are lined up and then only one push will be needed for a big impact. Working smart instead of just hard is often linked to timing
Let me introduce you to THE INFINITE VIEW! I would love to hear your feedback through Facebook and reviews.
My guides have said through the years, “Depth is a doorway to accessing direct spiritual connection.” Whether that connection is with one’s own spirit, spiritual guides, or the experience of oneness. Depth is the ability to experience any aspect of life beneath the surface. Spirit is always underlying everything, so when life experiences, relationships, or creativity are experienced deeply, connection with spirit and its sustaining principles are always a by-product.
A common obstacle to having direct spiritual experiences is rushing, pushing, and being caught in cultural expectations that generate a superficial quality of life. Listen to the rhythm of your own inner being this may take courage if it goes against the presumptions of those around you.
In the midst of challenging times I go back to a statement from my guides, “Attunement is the only rule.” What they mean by this is that whether we are in a difficult time or a time of smooth sailing, aligning our conscious mind with our spiritual essence through deep listening and deep focus will give us guidance about what to do.
An essential key to accessing deep listening and deep focus is to pause throughout the day to focus and listen. All to often in our modern world there is more to do in a day then we can accomplish. But when we pause to listen and focus we work and choose with wisdom. Take the time to attune!
Generalizations are inaccurate, unclear, and lead to confused attitudes and actions. When my guides first trained me, every time I spoke in a generalization I was corrected until I started to be self-observing and self-correcting.
Since then I’ve learned to pay very close attention to how others speak and write and have discovered that generalizations are all too common. In fact, generalizations are a problem. Whether they entail attitudes about a whole group of people, believing that gentleness is always best, or that if we are loving to others they will be loving to us.
My guides say, “Be like a zephyr, be like a hurricane, bend like a willow and steady like an oak,” Attunement is situational awareness. My guides say, “Only spiritual principles are consistent everything thing else must vary.”
My guides say positivity is our greatest protection. How do we stay in true positivity in the midst of great difficulty without getting caught in either discouragement or avoidance?
First of all, it is important to understand the difference between a desire and an attachment. A pure desire flows out of our spiritual essence and propels us forward into creativity, loving, and service. Attachment, on the other hand, is desire mixed up with the fear of not getting what we want. When we are attached to an outcome whether it is world peace or getting a new car and we don’t get what we want, discouragement can set in and/or overwhelm leading to a loss of confidence or avoidance as a way to feel better in the short term.
True positivity includes looking honestly at imbalances and problems with wisdom and compassion coupled with the desire to feel, express, and actualize the spiritual principles associated with our core and collectives natures. I define positivity as attitudes and actions based in spiritual principles, while negativity stems from attitudes and actions not based in spiritual principles.
From this perspective, how we experience our inner life and manifest our outer life is the key to true positivity. We can influence, but not control and if we become reactionary to our outer circumstances we lose our balance. Be in attuned action rather than reaction and know that karma comes from reaction while enlightenment comes from self-actualization. Our greatest service and personal fulfillment are one.
In traditional psychology, what influences human behavior is nature and nurture or in other words genetics and environment. Because our parents give us our genetics and most often our early environment, if we don’t like our conduct or quality of experience it really is our parents’ fault.
However, my guides say that our human behavior comes from four aspects, yes our genetics and environment, but also our past life traumas, talents, fears, and attainments and our eternal identity as Spirit.
They say that we experience our environment through the lens of our own karmic past, which includes both our past lives and/or our Spirit and that we are guided toward families that bring up both our strengths and weaknesses, so we can work with them to evolve. This perspective encourages self-responsibility and can simultaneously empower us to actualize our best through being guided by the wisdom of our own inner Spirit.
I teach a class about spiritual masters that I used to call “Dial a Deity” – back when we all used dial phones. The concept is that we can all connect with spiritual masters just through focusing on them, and repeating their names; after all, they make the rounds and travel at the speed of thought.
Today is Christmas, the celebration of the birth of Jesus on earth. Jesus is one of the spiritual masters, which means he attained the ability to manifest his spiritual nature with consistency. No small attainment!
My experience of Jesus is magnificent. He is endlessly compassionate and loving, and the power of his presence is healing bringing with it peace and deep acceptance. No wonder he is so loved.
If you repeat his name over and over again you can draw his loving and healing vibration to you.
What do you do when you feel discouraged?
Did you know that discouragement closes your crown chakra causing you to feel disconnected from others and spiritual access and expansion?
I have found that slowing down and becoming really present is an antidote to discouragement. When we take the time to really notice our surroundings deeply it becomes quite natural to feel appreciation for the simple things in life that could otherwise be ignored or taken for granted.
A chain reaction occurs, appreciation leads to inspiration opening the crown chakra, which replaces discouragement with expansion and motivates us to stay engaged through action and interaction.
Nip discouragement in the bud. The quicker you antidote it the more consistently you will feel happy.
Every person has an internal male and female part. The male aspect is directive, extroverted, and strong, while the female part is receptive, introverted, and sensitive. My guides define balance as a state of being both sensitive and strong, able to act and able to wait with equal ability.
In fact, they say that an introvert needs to seek the opposite to find balance, more expressiveness, and action. While an extrovert should cultivate more listening, receptivity, and allowing.
Achieving balance takes self-observation and is not a simple arrival, but rather a consistent process of making internal and external adjustments. Pay attention, are you a flip-flopper, moving from being too extroverted to too introverted? Or do you have a propensity to repeatedly hold back or push? Seek the opposite to find the balance.
One of my favorite children’s books is called Fortunately by Remy Charlip. It’s about a series of events that happens to a boy named Ned. Fortunately illustrates that every life circumstance leads to the next, what may appear unfortunate leads to something that is deemed fortunate.
From my guides’ perspective, nothing transpires in isolation, therefore what may appear bad is part of an interconnected stream of events that is actually good. This awareness clearly shows that an interconnected or oneness perspective moves us out of good, bad, right wrong thinking into an approach of wisely taking the next best step.
Here is a quote from Fortunately.
“Fortunately, Ned was invited to a surprise party. Unfortunately, the party was a thousand mile away. Fortunately, a friend loaned Ned an airplane. Unfortunately, the motor exploded. Fortunately, there was a parachute in the plane.”
And on and on…..
Very early on in the training with my spiritual guides, I was told to pay attention to whether I was making decisions from fear or clarity. They pointed out that when the fear of having something negative occur motivates action, then emotional reactions often get in the way of objective clarity.
Over and over again they have stressed that attitude precedes manifestation. Therefore the guides suggest that we fill ourselves with feelings of spiritual principles, such as love, acceptance, inspiration, and then unite this state of deep positivity with focus. I have found that clarity becomes a natural by-product of this process. Try it for yourself and see what happens.
When I feel like there is nothing I can do to make a difficult situation better I send gold light. I first learned about the power of gold light when my daughter was a colicky baby. At that point I didn’t understand that what I was eating was causing her pain. But I did decide to visualize sending her gold light. Which remarkably calmed her down and allowed both of us to get some sleep.
Gold light is the light of the enlightened individual. It contains the qualities of spiritual principles that hold life together: love, peace, clarity, wisdom and on and on. The visualization of gold light and the projecting it to specific people and to the planet as a whole is a remarkable tool to help antidote negativity, destructive attitudes and actions.
Just try visualizing gold light falling on you while you take a morning shower and experience for yourself its transformative capacity.
The election of Donald Trump feels like a punch to the gut, leaving an energetic dark shroud over our country: this darkness is palpable. What is darkness? Energetically darkness is generated by negative attitudes and actions, containing hate, fear, selfishness.
Some of this darkness has been produced by the attitudes and actions of Donald Trump, his cronies, and his supporters, but this gloom and negativity has been intensified by fear and reactions to his winning the presidency, as well as anxiety and foreboding about real dangers that his administration and the Republican congress can inflict on our lives and our world.
My guides stress the importance or acting rather than reacting. Staying positive in the midst of being surrounded by the negative. How do we do this in an extreme situation? The very same way that we navigate in better times.
Focusing on our individual and collective learning turns even the most negative into a positive. Earth is our school. Many years ago a guide said to me, “As your world situation worsens people will fall to the side of fear or to the side of a spiritual perspective. No one will be able to ride the fence.”
It’s so amazing to me that people could be undecided about who they will vote for in this presidential election. Or that the presence of a candidate could sway a voter to change their mind. Donald Trump and Hillary Clinton could not be more different.
The fickle nature of people is a manifestation of being uncentered. People often behave like sheep when out of touch with the skills of deep focus and deep listening. When we focus and really listen we have strong convictions without rigidity.
Please focus, listen, and vote.
Spiritual devotion can stem from the belief that we are not just human, but spiritual entities having come to the earth with a purpose and a plan. Not the plan of getting everything we want, but rather a deeper purpose. A purpose containing individual contribution and learning in our collective evolution.
The feeling of devotion opens our crown chakra bringing with it a deep feeling of connection, trust, and peace, An open crown chakra also gives us direct access to the spiritual realms, our guides, and expansion. It is the antidote to depression.
How do we know if we are good, smart, lovable, or successful? Too often people rely on external measures to determine their value. Teachers evaluate our intelligence, parents affect whether we receive loving responses to our character at an early age, and our culture defines for us what is successful.
But what if a teacher’s measures are limited and narrow minded, or a parent has trauma that blocks their ability to express love, or a ruling society is a Nazi regime? Can external measures be trusted?
My guides say, “Be the one who listens fully to Spirit.” We all have a deep core of Spirit within us that is the true barometer. Once I was told to put on my horse blinders and walk my path. Don’t get confused by the opinions of others.
Guidance can come in many forms. Sometimes a book falling off a shelf with a title that gives you a message. Sometimes you walk by two people having a conversation and you overhear them saying something you need to know. Sometimes a message from a dream wakes you up so you can remember its meaning.
Lately I have been feeling two hands on my back gently pushing me in a new direction. Guidance comes to all of us. Pay attention, for its language can be subtle or blatant.
Everyone can have direct contact with spiritual guides residing in the etheric realm. One way to develop a relationship with a guide is simply assume you can and start communicating. Asking and listening is the way. The asking can be either in thought or words and the listening is an interactive form of meditation. You must still your brain chatter in order to listen deeply.
You can practice this process while doing a formal meditation or while walking or taking a shower. Knock on the door and you will be given.
My relationship with my guides has been the most powerful positive influence in my life. It’s so worth it to make this effort, for having direct communication with a wise and loving individual over your shoulder is remarkable and helpful in innumerable ways!
Last night I attended a birthday party for a friend with a 1920’s theme. Everyone dressed in the attire of that period just for fun and celebration. The music was fantastic!
The experience reminded me that we have come to the earth not only to learn and contribute but also to enjoy! Like when we were children – play is an important part of being alive.
Take time for fun and celebration and inspire those around you to do the same!
When our bodies are not feeling well, it can be more difficult to feel the expansion of our spirit’s nature. It has been said many times that the body is the temple of the spirit: therefore it stands to reason that we must take good care of our bodies, so we can bask in the magnificence of our spirit.
Taking good care of our bodies has become complicated and challenging with the enormous amount of toxicity in our environment, the poor quality of much of the food sold in grocery stores and restaurants, and cultural expectations that often generate a lot of stress.
I have found that working to stay healthy has turned me into an investigative reporter. Learning about toxicity and how to detox, researching the best sources for healthy food, discovering natural and progressive ways to treat ailments, and then sharing my discovers with others.
Let me encourage you to become an investigative reporter too. Remember all the experts disagree, so don’t give your power away; use all your facilities to learn and discern what is best for you.
I’ve been black and white, Christian and Muslim, male and female, rich and poor and most all other possibilities too. And I’m not the only one, we reincarnate into a variety of circumstances to learn about diversity in the midst of universal oneness.
For example, It’s not uncommon for me to see someone who had a past life as a native American, develop hatred for white people. Then in their next incarnation they are born in England to a white Protestant family, who they deeply love. These contrasting lives have the potential to teach about the significant influence of our environment and conditioning.
This is why I am a strong proponent of meditation. In stillness we can learn to discern what is universally true and accurate and what is not. Societies’ attitudes are a mixture of confusion and clarity. Let meditation help you tell the difference.
It seems all too easy to get afraid or discouraged about the the state of our world. Whether it’s the pollution of our rivers and oceans, terrorist attacks, our broken political system, or concerns around the health of children, on and on and on.
My guides told me years ago that our world situation would worsen, but truly nothing has prepared me for the diversity and magnitude of the problems.
Nevertheless, my guides’ teaching that fulfillment comes from our self-actualization, rather than getting what we want still applies. Our challenge is to bring our best self to life no matter the circumstance, and to inspire others to do the same.
Everything—a cup, a book, a shirt—is brimming with energy. These things may look solid, but we know that they are energy in motion. Many years ago I was guided to meditate on a cup. I was told to project my consciousness into the cup and dialogue with it.
I projected my mind through my third eye and asked the cup, “What do you have to teach me?” As I listened in a meditation state, I heard my reply in thought, it said, “I am myself and I serve.” It contained no emotional turmoil or uncertainty. My guide then said be like a cup, in fact be like any thing. “Be yourself and serve.”
It can be extremely helpful to realize that past experiences that bring up regret are often part of our life lesson plan and are linked to healing past life issues and patterns.
Here are some examples: a relationship where you have been mistreated, perhaps in many lives by the same soul. The lesson is to say “no more” and to end the relationship. Or a string of opportunities that are not taken because of fear of failure: in this pattern the lesson is to learn to risk. Or the pattern of being so emotionally self-protected that intimate relationships are kept at arms length, because of a number of past lives where intimacy brought with it hurt and disappointment. The lesson is that clarity is a happier, healthier form of protection.
The examples are endless. And as my guides say, “It is never too late to learn.”
If we are in emotional balance and then we come into contact with someone who isn’t, perhaps a family member who is angry or a co-worker who is in turmoil, and if we react, we lose our emotional well-being and become trapped in our reaction. No matter how justified we are, we become negatively affected. Essentially this is giving up our power and well-being to those who are confused and struggling.
My guides say, be influential rather than affected. The phrase I use to help me to not be reactionary is, “Given what is, what am I to do?” Remembering to ask myself this question supports me to be proactive, rather than reactive.
When we forget that our true identity is Spirit the ramifications are enormous. The seed of inadequacy stems from overlooking this fact and the consequences of this emotion can range from greatly diminishing involvement with life, to becoming aggressive to prove oneself of value. Remember when we see ourselves as human alone, the tendency is to measure our value through behavior and comparison with others.
When we feel our spiritual nature, we are of value and significance, simply because we exist and are part of the creative force of the universe. From spiritual remembrance we are motivated by love, creativity, and learning, rather than fear and trying to prove that we are important. So sit with yourself and connect to the inner resonance of your Spirit.
It’s not uncommon for people to give what they want to receive, because we often perceive through the lens of our own experiences. However, if you want to truly understand another or give what is happily received, either you need to project your consciousness into that person and read them for clarity or you need to communicate.
I remember when my son was quite small, he said, “If you really love me, you will know what I think and feel without me telling you.” I thought this was a startling and astute thing to say, because whether people articulate this or not, many people feel this way.
If you’re not telepathic or able to read the mental and emotional state of others consistently, you can always have a dialogue.
To be intimate with someone, whether a lover, a friend, a spouse, or child, is to be close. When we are close in a relationship, we get to see the details of a person’s attitudes and behaviors: both their strengths and weaknesses.
In our more casual relationships, it’s easier for everyone to put their best selves forward, but in our long term intimate relationships, bad habits and weaknesses do get exposed. This is why my guides say, “Part of the purpose of an intimate relationship is to give criticism.” True loving is wanting growth and self-actualization for ourselves and others: and who best to give feedback than those who are up close and personal?
Unfortunately fear is a prevalent and unpleasant emotion, caused by the belief and reaction that a situation or outcome could jeopardize our wants and wishes, safety, and wellbeing. We don’t all have the same priorities or attachments, but the fear of loss of whatever our attachments are is a common human frailty.
From my guides’ perspective, one significant purpose for our human life here on earth is the opportunity to work through fear, so our spiritual nature can actualize. It can be helpful to go into fear and tease apart this emotion in order to understand its multifaceted nature.
Make a list of your fears, remembering that fears are essentially attitudes. In meditation, take one fear at a time: ask what attitude antidotes this fear? Practice cultivating the courageous perspective in your daily life.
I recently read an article by David Brooks about Ernest Hemingway. As I read the article, I thought to myself, Hemingway was a dramatic flip flopper. Solar plexus living, third eye writing, solar plexus living, third eye writing. He demonstrated extremes, profound and sustained focus in the midst of the disciple of his work, but in his life he was known to be drunk most of the time. A solar plexus problem.
Brooks points out, “even amid the wreckage…he could write books like For Whom the Bell Tolls and The Old Man and the Sea.”
The power of focus and discipline should never be underestimated. I advocate applying focus and discipline to our emotional, personal lives as well as our professional pursuits in equal measure.
Imagine feeling love in your heart for the people you find most annoying. The feeling of love, spiritually speaking, is an inner state rather than an outer reaction. My guides say: love is a force that is in us and all around us. It is warm and unifying and makes us feel glad to be alive.
It is easier to hold on to this desired feeling when we remember that everyone has a story and that life in the material world isn’t easy. Another key to keep the feeling of love flowing is to not take to heart our own imbalances and the imbalances of others. Just remember we can learn from our mistakes and the mistakes of others. Life is a school.
Too often the expectations of behavior in a job are more defined and articulated than the expectations of a personal relationship. This is not to say that people don’t have assumptions and hopes for their personal relationships, but rather they are not often clearly stated.
This lack of communication and clarity can lead to a lot of misunderstanding and reactions of hurt, anger and sadness. My guides state that everyone should ask three questions when engaged in a relationship, whether personal or professional.
They are: How would this relationship be if it were ideal according to me? What am I willing to work with if it is not ideal? And what is unacceptable?
When these questions are answered by both parties, then you see where you overlap and where you have different desires and aspirations. This process puts the cards on table, so an honest assessment and dialogue can determine a path for the future.
When my guides first started working with me they said, “If you don’t get disciplined, we will not work with you!” At that point, the word discipline felt troubling and restrictive. My education and upbringing had lot of creativity, spontaneity, and freedom.
My guides would say to me, “pick up after yourself” or “exercise everyday” or “build the habit of meditation.” They were task masters, teaching me to have structure, order, and healthy habits.
Over the years I have observed the importance and power of discipline, the ability to work hard, staying with a difficult task until completion, and being comfortable with repetition and then more repetition.
Without discipline ideas do not actualize, health declines, we lose our stability and our ability to make our visions a reality. Embrace discipline!
My friend Ken Blanchard has a saying, “All of us are smarter than any one of us.” We work in teams, whether that group is our family, our co-workers, or our community. If we want to accomplish anything significant we can’t do it alone.
Therefore it is important to learn how to work well with others. It can be important to remember that people aren’t enlightened yet, including ourselves. We all make mistakes and we are all learning. In fact, spiritually, one of the main reasons we come together is to learn.
It can also be helpful to call to mind that the loving thing to do is that which supports this growth process for ourselves and others. Being loving is another way of finding spiritual attunement in all situations.
All emotional hurts are self-imposed. If we have an emotional hurt it’s because of our attitude. This doesn’t mean that someone hasn’t treated you inappropriately or hasn’t been unkind. Our emotional hurts are our reaction to a circumstance and not the circumstance itself.
I have seen people who have been treated cruelly and they respond with compassion. I also see people who have been treated with just a little bit of “not niceness” and they feel traumatized.
Our emotional reactions are linked to how we perceive, which is why the third eye protects our hearts from hurt, because we stop taking situations personally.
It’s all too easy for people to speak in generalizations. Through the years my guides have emphasized that I should notice the difference between what is universal and what is unique. A concept that is universal is always applicable, to all people and in all circumstances. They have said that universal attitudes contain spiritual principles, the only constant and all other statements, attitudes, and actions should be situational.
My guides stress that it is fundamental in being wise to understand this difference and that the root of all confusion is having attitudes that are not universal, but acting as if they are.
Lately I have been feeling like walking through my daily life is like walking through a field with land mines. I am constantly using my deep focus to look carefully at details to determine my next step.
Let me give you some examples: Does the sofa I want to buy have flame retardant chemicals on the fabric? Is the water that comes out of my tap healthy, even with a filter? Is restaurant food genetically modified? Are products labeled organic really organic? Mold and pesticide problems seem to be so common, along with obesity and disease. Why aren’t politicians talking about environmental issues?
I recently read an interesting article in the New York Times by Thomas L. Friedman. He said, “Most voters do not listen through their ears. They listen through their stomachs. If a leader can connect with them on a gut level, their response is: “Don’t bother me with the details. I trust your instincts.”
The gut level is the solar plexus chakra. When we perceive through this chakra, we become self-centered. It’s all about what we feel and want right now, without any consideration for others or a long-term outcome. And unfortunately we are a solar plexus dominant culture and of course this approach causes people to make poor choices, resulting in negative consequences.
I even hear journalist talking about their gut perspective. This language has made it into the lexicon of our culture and regrettably supports a continuation of using the solar plexus to navigate life.
If the solar plexus is used appropriately it is not the center of perception, but rather the center of emotion. Our perceptions inform our feelings and the third eye is the proper center of perception and wisdom that can guide our emotions, while utilizing the tool of the intellect. The third eye is the decider.
Once when I was feeling like “a stranger in a strange land” a guide came to me and said, “What do you do if you love tennis, but find yourself on another planet, where no one knows how to play tennis? You teach.”
Teaching can take many forms. Of course it can mean imparting information in a formal classroom, or it can be how we communicate each day and the example of how we live our lives. Our thoughts, words, and actions impart our philosophy of life daily.
We are always teaching by example, whether we intend to or not. Remember we are always influential. Be aware of whether your influence is a positive or negative one.
Staring is the key to developing clairvoyance. Deep focus and looking fixedly starts to blur the physical world, while revealing the energetic world, as well as what lies beneath appearances.
Staring into a fire can bring clarity or visions, or staring into a palm, or even staring into the sky. It really doesn’t matter what you stare into: it’s not what is being focused on, but rather the process of focus itself that brings about a deepening of awareness.
This is partly why little children have clairvoyant experiences, which often fade when they are taught it is not polite to stare. Try staring at yourself in the mirror and see what happens.
When our crown chakra closes because of discouragement or worry, we feel isolation and unhappiness. The aura contracts and depression becomes quite literal. The experience of devotion, a loyalty or enthusiasm for a person, animal, activity or cause is one of the keys to keeping the crown chakra open.
An open crown chakra feels happy and creates a feeling of connection whether we are alone or with others. Therefore, living a life of devotion produces an inspiration for being alive and a feeling of purpose.
Don’t underestimate the power of devotion. However, it can take many forms and if your commitment is not aligned with the discernment of the third eye the choice can be misguided. My suggestion is embrace the power of devotion, while simultaneously integrating it with the wisdom that the third eye brings.
Miracles do happen. The manifestation of money or a needed material thing. The healing of a disease or a physical malady of one kind or another. An unexpected path that opens up and changes every aspect of daily life.
A guide once said, “Be in positive expectancy!” We are spirit and spirit is all around us, therefore we are not alone and can ask and reach out for help. A guide also said, “We will help those who help others.” So be of service and know that you too will be served.
In a world where the focus is often on individual needs and desires, service frequently isn’t emphasized enough as an important part of personal fulfillment and purpose. Because we are Spirit, interconnected, and all part of the same oneness, service is an essential factor in achieving happiness.
There are so many needs, personal as well as global, and causes that are important and worthy of our limited time and attention. Given what is, what are we going to do? I suggest that you search inside to determine your answer, and attune to the contribution that is most appropriate and meaningful for you.
But remember to ask the question. What is my prime service at this time?
How do we teach children to stay inspired by their own interests, while simultaneously being concerned about the well being of others? By teaching interconnection. Nature and our environmental concerns are powerful and effective topics for instructing children that we all need to work together for the common good.
Without considering and attending to our interconnection, eventually all individuals become negatively affected. A good example is that the polluted air in China doesn’t stay in China, but travels with the winds and tides to different parts of the world.
My guides say, “Make daily decisions from the consciousness of interconnection.”
Acceptance is one of the most important spiritual principles. Without acceptance we simply won’t have peace. Being immersed in the feeling of acceptance always feels like a vacation. Try a couple of affirmations, repeated a number of times, so you can see what I mean.
“I am filled with acceptance” or “I accept all I remember and all I do not.” Remember acceptance is not complacency or passivity, but rather an allowing of what is, because it is. Then from the emotional calm that acceptance brings, we can chart a wise course for the future.
When we’re having a hard time it’s always a good idea to focus on basic disciplines to regain emotional and physical stability. The disciplines of the body, mind, and Spirit. In this process, let’s not overlook the importance of minimizing our exposure to pesticides and toxic chemicals.
We are all exposed to pesticides and toxic chemicals. Staying aware and making wise choices like eating organic food, making sure your household products (including laundry detergent) are free of toxic chemicals, and reading labels even on personal products such as shampoo, skin care lotions, and makeup, can all help.
Remember the real danger comes from repeated exposures, hundreds, even thousands of exposures. Voting with our feet is the power we have as consumers to influence the companies that provide goods and services.
The line between being in the body and out of the body is a fine one. There is no ultimate safety in the body. It’s an illusion. Spirit is the only constant. Everything else changes.
When we experience ourselves as Spirit, we touch the part of us that actually is safe. But can we honestly say to a child, I will keep you safe? It is much better to say, I will protect you.
We are united in our human vulnerability and our spiritual magnificence. In the human form it is important to accept that we are susceptible to physical and emotional suffering. If we look honestly, we can then use our wisdom to determine our best course of action, attuned with our highest self – our inner integrity, instead of reacting with fear.
Any religious fundamentalism develops when a particular religious group feels threatened. In order to understand the behavior of others, it’s essential to grasp the present in a historical context.
I highly recommend the book, “Leap of Faith: Memoirs of an Unexpected Life” by Queen Noor, the wife of the late King Hussein of Jordan. This memoir presents an important and very interesting account of the history of the middle east.
Let’s all send positive thoughts and light to all concerned with the violence in Paris – all people throughout the world.
How do we break the habits of holding back or pushing? When my guides first started working with me, they had me review my day each evening with the intention of correcting in my mind my thoughts, words, feelings, and actions that were not ideal.
If I was involved in an interaction but was afraid to speak up, in my review process I would see myself speaking up. In a situation where I found myself impatient or pushing, I visualized myself feeling patience. Or if I was in a meeting and dominated the conversation, I created the image of a more discerning me.
My guides call the process of self observation and correction – staying current.
Self-doubt can cause a lot of inner turmoil, whether our uncertainty is about our behavior, perceptions, or a decision. This morning I was experiencing some self-doubt. So I sat in meditation and focused, asking for clarity about my situation. It wasn’t long before I was filled with a knowing and confirmation that my current direction is indeed appropriate for me at this time.
What a relief to receive validation. It didn’t take much effort or time and yet it can be so easy to let turmoil go on and on, instead of taking the simple step of pausing to focus and deeply listen. Not grasping a moment to be still and concentrate beneath common emotional reactions means staying in anxiousness unnecessarily.
Frustration is anger with the volume turned down. Whether we feel frustration, grief, anger, or sadness, all these emotions are reactions to situations not being as we want them to be. No matter how justified, emotional reactions are hard on us.
I have been trained to see emotional reactions as red flags, informing me that I need to make a change. Sometimes an attitude change, sometimes an action is needed, and sometimes both.
When we see emotional reactions as a wake-up call, we are less likely to repress them and we can learn to respond in proactive, creative ways, before these self-harming emotions take root.
We have a cultural pattern of thinking that situations are good or bad, right or wrong. My guide says, this approach to our lives creates emotional swings, being excited, and then becoming disappointed. “Oh boy, I’m going to get what I want!” to “Oh no, I’m not going to get what I want.”
A more accurate perception is that all events and interactions are not good or bad, but a part of an interconnected evolution. What might appear bad or unfortunate, can actually be a profound catalyst for healing and for the self actualization of one’s spiritual nature.
When we step out of good/bad – right/ wrong thinking, we stop reacting to situations when they are not ideal and move instead into curiosity, utilizing creative opportunities, and learning.
The crown chakra is the center of devotion and it is the bridge to the spiritual dimensions. It is through the crown chakra that revelation, profound inspiration, and the ability to heal with the God force is possible. However, it is not unusual for people who are spiritually oriented to have wide open crowns because of devotion, and wide open hearts because they love, but not strong third eye chakras of discernment.
I often think of people with this pattern as members of the crown chakra, heart chakra club. When I observe this energetic sequence, I am reminded that good intentions can pave your way to hell. So often this is a crowd that believes they can create their own reality with their intentions. My guides say it is much more complicated than that.
The third eye of deep focus is the miner’s light that helps us to navigate our day to day decisions. It guides the synthesis between the material and the spiritual world. Don’t get confused. Stay in your top eye.
We all have a male and female part within us, yin and yang, both a receptive and directive principle. However, we live in cultures that value being directive above being receptive and yet the interplay between these two principles constitutes balance.
As individuals, communities, and nations, we can’t possibly have balance without the combination of action and non-action, listening and speaking, convictions and openness. A clear manifestation of this balance in our world would be shared power between men and women.
Imagine men and women working together in true partnership, whether in a personal relationship, a job circumstance, or the political arena. The balance between the receptive and directive, male and female is key to creating a wiser world.
Anxiety is a lack of inner calm brought on by fear. My guides say that anxiety is a message that we need to pay attention to. It is our teacher asking us to address issues. It could be calling for an attitude change, the need to take action, or perhaps both.
Unfortunately, we have an epidemic of staggering proportion of avoidance to listening to what our anxieties are attempting to teach. Whether the repressing tool is prescription medication, alcohol, overeating, or street drugs. When the messages that anxiety communicates are avoided or repressed, larger problems develop.
Don’t be afraid of anxiety, but rather see it as your very important teacher. Get close to it and project into it, in order to understand what triggers the anxiety and what is needed as an antidote that brings true resolution.
What causes insecurity? Insecurity is another way of saying, I feel afraid. I don’t feel stable. I don’t feel confident. Our insecurities can vary, of course, depending on our first errors. What triggers us to feel insecure is not the same. If we want to feel some basic human safety and the world is unstable, how do we find security?
I find my security in cultivating a spiritual perspective, because I find that when I immerse myself in it, I feel an inner security and confidence. I don’t feel confident that I know everything, because I don’t. I don’t feel confident that I am better than others, because I am not. I don’t feel confident that my body will always be safe, because it isn’t. I feel confident in my fundamental value, whether I make mistakes or am accepted or rejected, because my identity is Spirit, part of the creative force of the universe. Just like you.
by Laura Tadd
Few relationships are more significant, complicated, and ongoing than parent and child. From the first day, the parent-child dynamic is a two-way street of learning and teaching. One of the challenges in communicating about parenting or the parent-child dynamic is that relationships are nuanced. As a result, any universal swathing of theory is doomed to fail. Astrology as a tool for parenting is a remarkable way to understanding the uniqueness of each child and comprehending this parent-child dynamic.
Here is an example: A client came to me last year because her then 11-year old son was battling her every night about avoiding homework. In addition to this being frustrating and exhausting for both of them, it was significantly impacting his learning and grades. In speaking with my client and in looking at her son’s astrology chart, I saw clearly that part of the issue was the physical environment where her son was trying to do his homework: the kitchen table. Now this can be a perfectly suitable environment for some children to study, but not for him. This boy was born when the planet Mercury was in Taurus.
Every planet in the sky, from an astrological perspective, represents different parts of the self. Mercury, as the God of communication, represents how we think and learn. The sign of Taurus is, among other things, deeply connected with our sensory perceptions. When a planet is in a given sign, it is as though that sign is superimposed upon the planet; impacting how it’s expressed. In the case of this young boy his communication and learning style was seen through the lens of Taurus, and as such his physical environment, his sensory experience, greatly impacts his ability to focus.
I suggested to my client, that they create a space in his room to work that was aesthetically pleasing to him; “him” being the key, it was not to look like what she found aesthetically pleasing, it needed to be tailored to him. It turned out he found the project of making a study space incredibly exciting and has continued to use this desk space more than a year later, even when he’s reading for pleasure. My client relayed to me that this change resulted in two dramatic shifts in their lives. First, their nightly homework battles are almost non-existent, and second, his grades have quickly and markedly improved. This relatively simple yet personalized approach improved their family dynamics in immeasurable ways.
This is just one of many examples of how astrology can be helpful for parents, and for understanding the dynamics between a parent and a child. If you or someone you know would be interested in receiving astrological guidance on the parenting process, or other family dynamics, please contact me at firstname.lastname@example.org or go to www.mythicsky.com for more information.
Our inner Spirit knows we need to pay the bills. Listening for guidance from our spiritual essence is quite practical as well as profound. Not only does our Spirit want us to learn our karmic lessons, but it also has the wisdom to understand our basic daily needs.
Through the years I have been amazed at the practical application of a deep meditation. Whether decisions have been linked to investing money, choosing the best school for a child, or navigating health concerns, we all have a source of knowledge deep within that is accessible through stillness and deep listening. Practice now, so when this ability is really needed it will be in reach.
Religions espouse a combination of accuracy and distortion, cultural conditioning contains confusion and correctness, and all the experts disagree. My guides say, “Don’t conform and don’t rebel, but rather attune to each situation.” It is our job and responsibility to discern and sort out the myriad of messages, ideas, and directives that cross our path.
This can seem like an overwhelming task. Yet the solution to this dilemma is never far away. Our own inner essence, and the spiritual force all about us, contain this clarity, Therefore, inner calm and the skills of deep listening and deep focus are imperative for this undertaking. Why wait to develop these abilities?
One negative byproduct of people forgetting that they are essentially Spirit is the confused desire to want power over others in order to feel greatness. The yearning for power as a way to compensate for spiritual disconnection feeds many of our human imbalances, such as greed, competition to be better than others, insensitivity to the needs of others and even cruelty.
When we can feel the pure power of being Spirit and have the direct experience that we are all part of the creative force in the universe, then we can know our own greatness and intrinsic value. Deep mediation is one effective way to feel the depth of our spiritual greatness and truly satisfy our natural longing for significance. From this inner knowing can come outer manifestation.
Money is important in our world. It is with money that we acquire the basics of survival, material splurges and extra pleasures, as well as the freedom to have options and choice. Certainly money doesn’t buy love or the quality of our inner life, but it can be supportive in its ability to diminish stress if used wisely.
What does it mean to use money wisely? My guides have said that materialism is when material things are valued above spiritual principles, such as love, wisdom, balance, clarity, and compassion. So how do we integrate spiritual principles with money decisions? When deciding about money matters, use your wise third eye and meditation. Whether about a particular purchase, your job situation, or to determine appropriate generosity.
It is not uncommon to observe people creating wealth off the backs of others and then after their success, they start a foundation to give to charity. From spiritual attunement, many company owners would increase wages and opportunities for their employees as a way to compensate them for their contribution to the success. From third eye wisdom, we are not too generous or too withholding, but balanced and appropriate.
“Shedding the load” is a phrase that pilots use to describe what to do when in a difficult situation. In other words, simplify. This is great advice for all of us. When our lives are stressful it is often because we have expanded our activities or expectations beyond our capacity. This leads to mistakes, exhaustion, and emotional imbalance.
Our capacity for tasks, relationships, productivity varies depending on many factors. This is why I like to wake up in the morning, and first stare at a point to activate my third eye of discernment to determine my priorities for the day. I would rather do few things well than many things poorly.
In the spiritual world telepathy is the mode of communication. All thoughts are known. Imagine this to be true in our daily life: honesty would rule, no one could manipulate or present themselves other than they are.
Our culture would benefit from remembering that upon our death we are all held accountable for our attitudes and behaviors. As my guides say, “No one gets away with anything.” I like to think of honesty as attunement. In the movie, “The Sound of Music” when the nuns took the spark plugs from the Nazi’s cars and lied about it, they were being honest for that situation.
How is it possible to compete with others and at the same time want the best for them? Competition is a contradiction to a oneness perspective. From a oneness perspective we each have our role to play, our instrument in the orchestra of life. Together we form the whole.
When we go inside and discover our purpose, our contribution and learning for this life, it may become disappointing when comparing with someone else. Someone else may have more fame, or more money, or more recognition. Which can create envy and jealousy, if not focused on a deeper comprehension of who we are and why we are here.
A belief in reincarnation emphasizes the view that we take turns having different roles. I have been a queen and a servant and the life as the queen wasn’t necessarily more fulfilling. True fulfillment is linked to the quality of our inner life and the actualization of our purpose – whatever that might be. Our inner spirit contains our instructions.
When my guides first started working with me they said, “If you don’t get disciplined we won’t work with you.” I didn’t learn good discipline as a child. My father who raised me was a self-made man, and seemed to think that people could and should teach themselves discipline. But this was not the case for me.
My guides finished the parenting job. Telling me to pick up after myself, exercise everyday, meditate regularly, eat well, be mindful of words spoken, manage money and time and on and on.
I have found that discipline and order are fundamental for self-esteem. We are here on earth to learn to actualize our spiritual nature and without discipline potential doesn’t actualize.
Inspiration is one of the great tools for experiencing happiness. It can be really helpful to ask, “What inspires me and how do I incorporate inspiration into daily life?” We each have our list of things, places, people, and ideas that bring us inspiration. But what I really want to focus on is the idea that if we take basic daily experiences deeper, then inspiration is all around us.
For example, if we take time to look at the food on our dinner plate and really think about all the people and effort necessary to bring that food to us – it feels amazing. Remember seeds were planted and the miracle of life grew vegetables, fruits, beans, or an animal, like a chicken, gave of its life, the sun, the water, the nutrients in the soil, shipping, the store or farmer’s market staff and on and on. When the fullness of all the aspects of what goes into a simple dinner is deeply reflected upon, appreciation is a natural byproduct and inspiration follows.
When we don’t take things, people, and situations for granted, keeping appreciation in the forefront of our minds, inspiration and happiness is plentiful.
To me the symbol of the cross is a symbol for balance rather that a symbol for Christianity. The vertical line represents the directive principle, the horizontal line represents the receptive principle. My guides say, the cross is the symbol of the enlightened individual, and embodying balance is key.
We live in a culture that values productivity more than receptivity and yet one without the other creates imbalance individually and collectively. It’s very common for me to observe people rushing toward their goals, not having enough time to relate or hold a door open for another person. A quality life must include both being receptive and directive.
The chakra system is a framework for human growth and development. We all are born with large heads and undeveloped legs. This is a reflection of the fact that we all come into the world with open crown chakras and undeveloped base chakras. As we age, well-being is experienced as all seven of the chakras are in proper proportion and integrated, like a well oiled machine.
If one chakra is diminished or dominant then the whole system becomes out of alignment. This translates into personal problems. My book “The Wisdom of the Chakras: Tools for Navigating the Complexity of Life” is a tool book for understanding each center and how best to use this knowledge in daily life.
Most of us have been taught to contemplate or reflect by moving from one thought to the next, but few of us have been trained to hold our minds still while focused on a single image or concept for a sustained period of time without interruption. And yet focus and concentration amounts to a remarkably versatile skill. As a friend once said, “It’s like a Swiss army knife, with a hundred and one uses and purposes.”
Holding an image or thought without interruption brings about the intensity necessary for manifestation to occur.
My guides say that compassion is the pinnacle principle. From a compassionate state we recognize that everyone has a story, even the annoying telemarketer on the other end of the phone, the person in the grocery story line who has too many items for the express line, the politician who votes against legislation that would obviously help people, and us, when we make a stupid mistake that makes our own life harder.
Compassion contains spiritual love and the understanding that we are not yet enlightened. We still have fears and confusions that are not worked out. Our magnificent spirit and the long path of evolution that includes our past lives makes up our individual stories that explain who we are and why we do what we do. Yes, life on earth is the school. A plate of compassion all around, because we still have a lot to learn.
Today is Mother’s Day. I have read that originally Mother’s Day was created as a day for mothers to unite against war. The idea of giving heart and soul to the raising of one’s son and then sending him off to war seemed intolerable for Julia Ward Howe, the first advocate of Mother’s Day in 1870.
This Mother’s Day let’s remember to stand up and speak out about our society’s choices that are harmful to our children. Whether that means unnecessary wars like the invasion of Iraq, the spraying of pesticides on our food, giving children medications for focus difficulties, fast foods that create childhood obesity, college tuitions that keep our children in debt while being taught by adjunct faculty that are not paid a living wage and on and on and on.
I once taught a workshop called “You Can Read Anything.” In the workshop I had people walking around in each other’s shoes, listening deeply to each other’s voices, and holding a ring or watch in order to interpret each other’s emotional state. Every thought, word, or action creates a vibrational wake that affects our environment and each other. These vibrations are contained in our clothes, houses, our car seat, in fact all our material things.
I remember once driving a friend’s car and while sitting in the car seat that she often inhabited it was clear to me where her thoughts tended to wander. Once you become aware that you can read anything, all you need to do is focus deeply on the vibrations contained in what ever you are reading and then listen deeply.
Our cultural conditioning has a huge impact on how we perceive, feel, and behave. Through our conditioning we are taught what to focus on and what to prioritize, whether appropriate or not. Because what we focus on is what we notice, these preconceived notions have a way of directing us as we move through our lives.
Meditation is a way of taking a break from our preconceived notions and opening ourselves to an infinite view, a more expanded sense of our selves and life in general. It’s amazing what a little bit of meditation each day can do for our ability to expand our world view. We actually can begin to develop a multidimensional view.
A guide once said, “As your world situation worsens no one will be able to ride the fence: people will fall to the side of fear, or the side of a spiritual perspective.” As it becomes more and more apparent that our world is fundamentally unstable, then it becomes necessary to find our security from an inner state rather than our outer circumstance.
This is an essential lesson from our environmental challenges. We are Spirit temporarily on the earth.
My guides say, ”People see through the lens of their own issues.” So don’t be surprised if you are not understood. It is best to find emotional security through meditation rather than looking for validation from others. In this way we can allow learning to happen in our relationships without taking things personally and becoming emotionally hurt. Also, from inner security it can be easier to be generous with others.
Trust is a key to happiness. Trust opens the crown chakra and gives us feelings of expansion and connection. The important question is, “What can we trust?” We can’t trust that we will always be safe or that we will always get what we want or that we will always be treated lovingly.
But we can trust we are all spiritual beings temporarily on the earth, we are here to learn to actualize our spiritual natures, and we are never alone and helped by non-material beings grouped around us.
Once a guide said, “Any important work is a group effort.” Ken Blanchard has said, “All of us are smarter than anyone of us.” We are all interconnected and team work is a manifestation of this truth.
When Ben Affleck accepted the academy award for Argo in the best picture category, one thing he said stood out for me: “can’t hold grudges, it’s hard, but you can’t hold grudges.” All of us make mistakes, we are all in the school of life. Remember to be generous with yourself and others, in the acceptance of the learning process.
“Put on your horse blinders and walk your path.” A guide said this to me many years ago as a way of saying, don’t get distracted. There are so many kinds of distractions, other people’s emotions and behaviors, media, a tremendous amount to read, watch, and do. Sometimes a lot of choice can be overwhelming and make us scattered.
Some distractions are inner distractions, such as fear, guilt, or uncertainty. There is only so much time in a day and distractions from our purpose can eat up our time. I find that letting go of attachments and focusing out of the third eye, while asking “What are my priorities today?” – helps me to stay on course.
The heart chakra is located in the middle of the chest. When this chakra is functioning well, we feel and express love appropriately, appreciate the gift of life, have appropriate generosity, the ability and motivation to walk through our fears, and truly want the best for others.
In an unhealthy state, this center can become diminished or dominant. When diminished, the heart chakra feels emotional hurt and self protective, not wanting to be hurt again, a lack of joy, and can feel afraid to be fully involved with life and relationships.
When the heart chakra is dominant there is a tendency to over give, have warm interactions, but not integrated with discernment. It feels loving feelings, but is confused about appropriate loving behavior.
Using the third eye helps keep the heart chakra healthy!
Our souls contain our past life stories. These previous incarnations have a huge impact in shaping why our life is as it is now. It is possible to stimulate these memories in order to rememberer our individual history down through the ages.
One technique that is particularly effective is staring. When you stare into the face of another or into your own face in the mirror, clairvoyance can become activated. Physical features can start to blur and the etheric energy comes to the fore, activating changes in facial features that reveal faces from previous lives.
It is important to remember that there is both inner vision and outer vision. Activating outer vision through staring can then stimulate visions in the mind’s eye, which can reveal detailed images from past lives offering insight into our inner complexity.
Most people are in contact with spirit guides whether they are aware of this fact or not. Here are some examples: You are in the shower enjoying the wonderful sensation of warm water pouring over you head, when all of a sudden an insight flashes helping you to solve a problem at work.
Or you happen to be a song writer and mostly you plug along at crafting your music, but this one time a new song comes so fast to you that you need to grab a piece of paper and write it down as fast as you can. Because it is coming to you, rather than coming from you.
Or your decide to drive the long way home, only to discover that there was a terrible accident on the road you normally take. The list of examples are endless. We are being helped by beings in the spiritual realm frequently. Pay attention to when an idea comes to you instead of from you.
It’s common for children to be asked the question, “What do you want to be when you grow up?” From a spiritual perspective that question would be reframed to be, “Why have you come to the earth, what have you come to do?”
Imagine a world where children are taught very early to go inside themselves to determine their life direction, rather than responding to the expectations of others. This very simple alteration has the potential to radically change our world.
Surrender is one of my favorite words in the English language. Because there are some situations where we have no control. Like the blizzard outside my window. I have found through the years when I can’t quite feel an acceptance of how things are, saying the word surrender to myself takes me to acceptance.
Whether action or non-action is called for – experiencing acceptance of what is, creates an inner calm, which then makes it easier to get in touch with appropriate action.
It can be easier to be genuinely one’s self in the midst of a supportive environment, while more challenging if relating to confused people. But either way it is our attainment, and our fulfillment to master being our true nature whether or not we are reassured and encouraged.
As my guides say, “Become a positive influence, rather than being negatively affected.” Regular meditation woven into daily life is an effective way to receive spiritual support at any time, no matter your personal situation.
We are never truly isolated. The air around us may appear empty, but even scientifically we know that it is full of vibrations and frequencies. Including the energy of our thoughts and feelings, as well as the thoughts and feelings of others.
Plus other dimensions are only a thought away. Individuals residing in other dimensions travel at the speed of thought and communicate in thought. Therefore, we can conclude, that if we need help or clarity – we can simply ask for it. Put it out into the vibration, knock and you shall be given.
I am first and foremost pragmatic, so try it and see what happens. Make your own life your laboratory.
Avoidance is a major problem in our world, leading to a lack of honesty and integrity. Most people have a tremendous attachment to results and what they want. Attachment is desire mixed up with fear.
If we put our head in the sand – will unpleasant truths go away? No they won’t.
My guides say, “Clarity is our greatest protection.” And Harold Pinter, Noble prize winner said, “If you don’t look, you can’t actualize your best self.”
Relationships are an important part of life. Our families, friends, co-workers, intimates: our relationships are woven through the fabric of our lives. My guides stress that a key to happy and healthy relationships is to feel one’s individual wholeness. From wholeness we can share, learn, love and create.
However, if we feel dependent on our relationships to make us feel happy, whole, or safe, then if the people we are involved with are not behaving the way we want them to, it becomes easy to react in hurt or anger.
My guides say, “If you are afraid to lose your job, lose a relationship, or afraid that you won’t be loved, you can’t have the quality of relationship you desire.” Because fear blocks our ability to feel free to be ourselves and bring our best self to a given situation.
Affirm your wholeness and stay engaged.
Here is my little write up about mediation – so you can get started.
I use an X to symbolize the process of learning to meditate. The bottom part of the X is everyday thought or brain chatter. The point in the center is stillness. The upper part of the X is revelation, connection to the Spirit within and without.
There are three steps to achieving a sustained meditation. The first is to produce the open airy feeling at the top the head, associated with an open crown chakra. Inspiration is an obvious tool to bring this about. Reading a poem, or envisioning an uplifting image or event are possibilities. Devotion and trust can also be used to open the crown chakra. Whatever works to produce the open, airy feeling at the top of your head should be focused upon before meditating.
The next step is using an affirmation or the verbal affirming of a universal truth. I suggest, “I am Spirit, infinite Spirit” to focus and recondition the mind to feel one’s infinite identity as a spiritual being. The affirmation should be repeated until an expansive feeling grows.
The third step is to discontinue the use of the affirmation and work to hold your mind still. If brain chatter returns, go back to the affirmation. A rocking sensation can be very effective. Saying the affirmation, then pause – holding your mind still, then the affirmation again, then a pause. Gradually maintain the pause and stillness for longer periods of time.
Why is it that one person stands out in a crowd? Why is it when we meet someone for the first time, we feel we already know them? Or why do we get stuck in a relationship that isn’t working, but somehow we can’t quite extricate ourselves from it? These are all likely karmic connections. People we have had relationships with in former lives.
Our past life relationship history has an enormous impact on our attractions and conflicts. Plus we tend to incarnate with the same group of people. This is our soul family; the people that we reconnect with in order to resolve old issues, learn lessons not yet learned, or receive support and love because of a bond long ago formed.
If you want to understand your relationship history, you might want to try past life regression, meditate on the meaning and purpose of a relationship, or have a past life reading. Understanding relationships from a past life perspective can be more interesting than going to the movies.
We live in a culture that is enamored with identity. It’s not uncommon for someone who has become famous for one reason, then to become popular for another, even if their talent is lacking.
When I first started to communicate with my guides, I asked them to identity themselves. They said we would rather remain anonymous, because we want the ideas we express to stand on their own merit, instead of being received because of their origin.
In other words, listen to the substance of a message, rather than becoming infatuated with the messenger.
If you walk into a gathering, it is very easy to absorb the mood and emotional state of the crowd. But if you remember that the not so visible spiritual realm is part of your environment as well, you will feel protected and supported by the positivity of guides and helpers in all situations.
Don’t underestimate the power of focus. What you focus on will determine the quality of your experience. Expend your focus and you will feel expansion. Keep in mind that expansion feels happy and contraction doesn’t.
When I lived in Mexico, a very Catholic country, almost 40 years ago, I was surprised to learn that Mother Mary was worshiped more intensely than Jesus. This I discovered was because of The Virgin of Guadalupe.
In 1531 Mother Mary appeared to an Indian peasant, at Guadalupe, telling him to ask the Bishop to build a church on that spot. The Bishop did not believe the peasant until he saw a painting of Virgin Mary on the inside of the peasant’s cloak. This painting can still be seen in Guadalupe, Mexico.
I want to share a photograph of Mary’s eye – so you can feel the compassion and healing that still emanates from the image. I believe that Mary is one of the many masters.
Many people have heard the frog story – you put a frog in boiling water and it jumps out, but if you put a frog in cold water and turn up the heat slowly it doesn’t jump out of the water. This is a cautionary tale and a good analogy for our current situation.
I believe that we are all slowly being poisoned by environmental toxins, harming the mental and physical health of everyone and causing a lot of suffering. A number of websites, like the Environmental Protection Agency, estimate that we use around 1 billion pounds of pesticides each year in this country alone. This might not be exact, but does it really matter whether the actual number is 800 million pounds instead of a billion?
Rather the point is that we need to stay aware of this phenomenon, even if the negative effect is gradual. I take three steps to help with this dilemma. First, I do my best to stay clear of toxic exposure, work on detoxing accumulated poisons in my body, and support organizations working on this problem.
We are all responsible for our own lives. A guide once said to me, “No matter whether you get a message from a drunk in the street or a master in etheric form that appears before you – take what they say into yourself for final confirmation. For this is your life and you are responsible for your choices.”
There are many decisions that we make everyday, and at times we may want an “expert” to guide our way. Perhaps a doctor, a lawyer, a financial adviser, or a spiritual guide. But the fact is we are the ones who must deal with the consequences of any of our choices – no matter whose guidance we follow.
So listen deeply and learn from many, but take all advice into yourself for final confirmation and personal responsibility.
A positive byproduct of being a meditator is the skill of becoming a good listener. When we learn to turn off our brain chatter at will, then when we are having a conversation with another person we can really listen deeply to what they have to say.
Too often in a conversation the person who should be listening is actually thinking. Perhaps excited about expressing their point of view, or ready to argue their point to prove that they are right. Only when the mind is still can we genuinely listen deeply to another person.
Life is over and under and up and down. No matter how hard we try we can’t hammer it flat, we can’t control what goes on around us, or make others behave the way we want them to. However, if we bring our best selves to the moment we can experience an internal satisfaction in the midst of challenge and then we offer a positive influence to our circumstance and to others.
Let’s all change the definition of happiness from getting what we want to actualizing our best.
It can be hard to describe to a non-meditator how powerful and astonishing meditation can be. Words just don’t do it justice. Last night when I meditated I experienced bliss. The best I can do to describe bliss with words is to say it is the experience of oneness, the emotional experience of all the spiritual principles rolled into one – peace, compassion, clarity, interconnection, acceptance, trust, confidence, wholeness, love, and on and on…
Feeling connected to these intense emotions which reside in the essence of us all, makes life feel worth living as we experience this endlessly interesting adventure. Meditate, there is nothing quite like it. Join me for my on-line meditation on the third Thursday of each month.
Some people in spiritually oriented circles say that time does not exist, that it is an illusion. My perspective on time is that it definitely is a part of our day to day life here on earth, but there are realms in the spiritual world where there is no time.
My guides say that here on earth it is like living on a conveyor belt that is always moving forward. And yet when someone dies they come off the conveyor belt into realms where everything happens in the eternal moment.
While we are on earth understanding cosmic timing is one of our major lessons. When should we wait and when should we act. If you think of every individual as an instrument in the orchestra of life – just like in a musical orchestra timing is essential.
My guides say that learning is a lot like filling a glass with water. One experience fills the glass with a little water. The next experience brings the water level up some more. Gradually the glass becomes full – when it reaches the top, that is when we have the aha moment. That is when the learning from all the experiences sustains and truly gets integrated in our consciousness.
In other words, repetition is how we learn. Through the years I have found this image very comforting. We tend to make the same mistakes over and over – understanding the nature of learning can help us be patient and compassionate with ourselves.
I recently purchased a new bed and was amazed how one simple change can be so significant. Comfort and a good nights sleep makes everything easier and more enjoyable. This inspired me to meditate on the power of our home environment to support our well being or the converse, pull us down.
Simple details, like comfortable kitchen chairs, art on the walls that bring pleasure, good lighting, soothing colors, a lack of clutter, music, and on and on.
We are all environmentally sensitive and therefore we should be proactive to improve the aspects of our environment that we can control. Set up your home to support, inspire, and rejuvenate – a sanctuary that can help you bring your best self into the world.
Many years ago I had a clairvoyant experience that lasted two weeks. During that period I was able to see colored light coming out of people’s mouths whenever they spoke. My guides explained that this experience was to teach me that the words people use do not tell the whole story. The feeling behind the words is a significant part of any communication. Someone can say, “I love you” and the color of the emotions can be red with passion, pink with tenderness or greenish-brown with anxiety. Actually, the words don’t tell you as much as the undercurrents.
I learned that every thought, word, and action has a color and that every color has qualities that are linked to its energetic vibration. One day in the parking lot of our local food market, I noticed a couple intensely arguing with each other. Red light flashed back and forth between them. There was no doubt in my mind that the red color was the energetic manifestation of their anger.
My guides say, “Attitudes create color, and color creates attitudes.”
Many years ago, I remember putting my fist toward the sky in anger, and saying to my guides “The human experience is full of just too much suffering.” I was told don’t be angry at us – every single individual is a part of the god-force and is collectively responsible for the state of your world. At the most fundamental level we are all creators. Our thoughts, words, and actions all add up to our circumstance.
However, it is also important to understand that karma means that aspects of our collective situation, as well as our personal lives, were set in motion long ago in previous lives through the principle of cause and effect. Which is why there is both destiny and choice and our world is a school to learn how to set positivity into motion – rather than selfishness, destruction, and suffering.
Let’s all learn and take responsibility for our very powerful thoughts, words, and actions.
Twice a year, in the Fall and in the Spring, I play a game called “Moving.” I pretend that I will be moving, and then go through all my stuff to decide what to keep, give away, recycle, or put in the trash. I figure if I wouldn’t take certain things to my next location, why keep them. This silly little game keeps me living in simplicity, while avoiding the common habit of accumulating clutter.
I aspire to have few quality things – things that inspire and add pleasure to being alive. The spiritual teacher Paramahansa Yoganandya said, “Have few things, wash frequently.”
Faulty cultural conditioning is one of our great challenges in the process of learning to actualize our spiritual nature. We all get affected by the bombardment of messages that we receive through media and the current popular ideas or aspirations.
This is one of the reasons mediation is so important. Meditation is like going into the closet and closing the door. When we are deeply alone with ourselves and clearing away all the external influences – What do we know? What do we want? What do we do?
Not all cultural messages are destructive to our well being, but many are. I think it is important to do a conscious sorting out process. Embrace the helpful attitudes and discard the ones that just don’t serve us and others.
People can be taught to feel inspired by experiences that facilitate positive feelings and memories. Like sharing a wonderful day at the beach or delicious smells from the oven at dinner time. However, this process can be a healthy encouragement or an unhealthy indoctrination.
Advertising agencies often try to manipulate our feelings and open our crown chakras to inspiration to get us to buy products. Or politicians will give lip service to ideas that inspire and make us feel hopeful for positive change.
Children can be taught to be inspired by doing their best and learning to work well with others, or finding inspiration in winning, and being better than others. Inspiration can come from many places.
Think about the power of inspiration and linking it with wisdom and consideration of others.
Generosity is not a spiritual principle. How do we know what a spiritual principle is and isn’t? My guides say that we can’t have too much of a spiritual principle. We can’t have too much balance, or too much clarity, or too much love. This is the test of a spiritual principle. It is always universal, always appropriate, and you can’t have too much of it.
But we can have too much generosity.
There are some principles that are all about balance. Alone they would create imbalance and therefore they need to be coupled. Generosity is one of them. Generosity is linked to giving and giving is one side of the balance scale, while receiving is the other side.
Tolerance is another example of a balance principle. Alone tolerance can turn into a problem. Tolerance needs to be coupled with intolerance for the balance to be discovered.
I am in the San Francisco bay area at an airport hotel. Last night I was woken up at 3:20am by an 6.0 earthquake. What actually woke me was the noise of everything in my room and the building itself moving. I turned on the light and then watched my room shift back and forth, the walls, the bed, the television and on and on. The power of the experience and the powerlessness I felt to influence the situation motivated me to let go, stay in my third eye, and observe.
In my third eye I asked, Should I leave the building? Should I get under a table? What should I do? While in my third eye it was clear that I should just stay in bed and stay calm.
I share this story, because at any moment any number of unexpected events can happen and as my guides state, “Clarity is our greatest protection.” Third eye focus promotes clarity. Strengthen your focus skill, you never know when this ability will be extremely important.
Depression is not a disease in the typical sense of the word, but it is dis – ease. I believe it is perfectly logical for any sensitive, smart person without a spiritual perspective in our world to be depressed. Depression and discouragement are really the same thing. If people are not avoiding or repressing the facts about our world environment – discouragement makes sense.
A spiritual perspective is an alternative. From a spiritual perspective there is the remembrance that we are all spirit temporarily on earth. Whether our earth survives, whether people are greedy, ignorant, or selfish is not the point. What is most important is that we learn not to react to negativity and problems, but instead focus on learning the lesson of bringing our best self to life.
Life is a school. Every situation or event contains a lesson for each of us. This is a powerful lesson in itself; for when we approach experience from the perspective that there’s something to be learned, then everything that occurs—however painful, puzzling, or bleak—contains a hidden benefit and useful meaning. This principle was summarized eloquently in Desmond Tutu’s observation about Nelson Mandela that “prison made the man.” From an expanded perspective—which includes an understanding of reincarnation—we can begin to discern an order and purpose behind situations and events. Once we begin to perceive that order and that purpose, it becomes easier to respond to situations in ways that foster our own growth while simultaneously contributing to the development of others.
When we walk into a darkened room, all the furniture, books, lamps, all the details in the room exist, we just can’t see them.
When the light is turned on everything becomes clear. Consciousness is the light switch on the wall. The details of life exist, we just can’t see them clearly until our consciousness is illuminated.
In my spiritual work and classes, I don’t ask people to have faith. Instead I teach tools for direct spiritual experiences. Having faith in something that you have not experienced or perceived can be confusing or dangerous. Just think of religious wars throughout history.
Our perceptions are greatly influenced by our society and our upbringing. When we meditate our perceptions go deeper than our preconceived notions. There are many tools that my guides have taught me, so I can teach others to feel and to know that we are multi-dimensional beings. We are both Spirit and human navigating the school of life.
I think of technology as neutral, just like money. It can be used well or used poorly. With both technology and money, discernment is the key to a wise and appropriate relationship.
Pay attention to your relationship with technology – are you in your Solar Plexus when you feel compelled to check your email one more time before bed? Or are you focused from the Third Eye of discernment? Feel the difference. When we are compelled from the solar plexus it feels like a craving – an emotional pull that comes from a feeling of lack of wholeness.
When we use technology while being focused from the Third Eye it is marvelous tool for creativity, connection, and learning. The big difference is from the Third Eye we feel whole, and make good choices, rather than feeling pulled, overwhelmed, or needy from the Solar Plexus.
Observe your relationship with technology – it can be very interesting and insightful.
I will be starting my beginning and on-going classes soon, mid-September. As I start the process of setting them up, I am reflecting on why I have chosen the format of on-going classes, instead of workshops.
My guides have said, the two challenges we face that need resolution to actualize our spiritual nature and bring us to fulfillment – are past life fears, and confusing conditioning from this life. They have also said, that if our cultural conditioning supported our spiritual nature we would naturally unravel to enlightenment, healing our wounds. Our culture does not support our spiritual growth, but rather adds insult to injury.
All this said, the format of the on-going classes provides the time necessary to practice and transform fundamental attitudes through direct experience that we are all Spirit and human. Gradually faulty attitudes from childhood and our culture get replaced with a more universal perspective. The experiential nature of the classes is why some people take them for 20 years. We are so much more than what we have been led to believe, and in class we remember as a group what it means to be Spirit temporarily on earth.
In my meditation this morning I heard, “Let go and know.” This phrase reminded me how we are taught to try to figure things out with our minds alone. Going over details again and again, trying to make sense of a situation, conversation, or rejection.
This culturally common approach to gaining understanding is limited by our preconceived notions. When we let go, we allow and make room for unexpected insights to flow to us, the idea we never thought of, the insight that could only come without fear, and a larger perspective then our attached view.
The other great advantage in letting go is the release of stress. Which is good for our body, our mind, and all the people in our environment.
Decisions, decisions – Sometimes when I need to make a decision and look out of my third eye or meditate for insight, there just isn’t clarity. As I have observed this experience through the years I’ve become aware that the clarity can’t come, because all the data isn’t in yet and therefore it isn’t time to know.
Next I ask, “Do I wait and be patient or do I start gathering more information?” Sometimes we need to give a situation time for the details to be revealed and sometimes we need to be proactive on our search for more knowledge to inform our choices. Deep listening and deep focus can help us discern.
So if you are using your third eye and meditation to bring clarity, don’t get discouraged if insights don’t come right away. Keep asking and listening.
What is success? My guides define success as the ability to actualize our spiritual nature. This is easy to say, but not so easy to do in a world where there is a very different definition.
Our worldly definition of success focuses on getting ahead of others: more money, more fame, and more power. This conditioning starts when we are very young and like photographic negatives we get imprinted with this perspective contributing to the forgetting of who we are and why we have come to the earth.
If true success, self-actualization, is the key to personal fulfillment, then it becomes necessary to put on our horse blinders and walk our path whether it is popular or not. Let’s be the ones who listen fully to the Spirit, our deepest nature.
I recently had a vision of walking on a winding path through thick woods. I couldn’t see very far ahead: only the next few steps on the path seemed clear. Eventually in my vision I came to a clearing in the woods where I had an expansive view of fields and mountains–this change coincided with a feeling of “now I know where I am” and now I can make a plan.
This vision felt perfect for a time of great change. In a time of change it can be difficult to plan very far ahead. This uncertainty can create anxiety and worry about the future, but if we remember that the life path is like winding through the woods, then it is natural to only know the next few steps.
My guides say it this way, “Do what’s obvious and let the rest unfold.”
Unconditional love does not mean unconditional giving. My guides say that unconditional love is always feeling we want the best for others no matter what. This means wanting spiritual growth for everyone, but it does not mean tolerating inappropriate behavior.
Balance is a spiritual principle that includes giving and receiving, so when we feel unconditional love we strive toward giving and receiving in our relationships.
My guides make a distinction between gratitude and appreciation. They say that appreciation is a spiritual principle while gratitude is not. Gratitude is linked to acquiring, while appreciation is a state of being.
When I have expressed this to people, it often difficult to grasp, but when people meditate on the difference it becomes quite clear. Appreciation feels much more expansive then gratitude. Appreciation feels whole and connected, while gratitude is more focused on I like this, or I like that, I’m glad to have this, I’m glad to have that.
Try it: meditate on appreciation and on gratitude and feel the difference. I have found that appreciation is one of the fundamental principles for a quality life and good relationships.
My guides say, “Problems are puzzles begging to be solved.” When I think of a problem as a puzzle my creativity kicks into gear. I become curious and active in what feels like a scavenger hunt. One step brings more knowledge and then the next step presents itself. How things unfold is always interesting, even if challenging.
We all have problems individually and collectively. Eliminating negative reactions and fear will support the process of finding solutions. Good problem solving demands the ability to listen deeply and proactive confidence.
Where is the line between self-denial and self-indulgence? This is a very interesting question to me. What behavior is selfish and what behavior isn’t considerate enough of our own needs? The answers to these questions are always situational.
My guides say, “When you act on an attuned choice you don’t serve yourself or serve others, but rather you serve the oneness.” An attuned choice is best for all concerned. When we live in attunement we step out of dichotomy and into a oneness perspective. This takes deep listening and focus to achieve.
Be like an iceberg: majority under the water, minority above the water. When we cultivate a strong inner life, we are not so thrown when our external situation is not to our liking.
How do we cultivate a strong inner life? By remembering we are Spirit temporarily on the earth learning. And through using meditation and the third eye to strengthen confidence in our deepest identity in the midst of the ups and downs of our human experience. Meditation and the third eye will also make it easier to know what the specific lessons are in our spiritual growth process.
I once asked a Guide, “How can feelings of inadequacy be healed?” The response was, “through humility.” This answer was such a surprise. Before I heard this message, I thought when someone is feeling inadequate the best approach to helping would be to build them up, and let them know that they are really great. But that approach wasn’t working.
When I meditated on humility, I discovered and experienced that each of us are Spirit, but human too. We are each one small significant part of life. Getting in touch with humility helps us to relax, to be comfortable with our individual stage of growth, and to be open to learning as we go. We don’t need to be perfect to be good.
In the past, a guide once told me, “Whether the earth survives or not is not the most important thing. Earth is your school – the evolution of consciousness is the most important aspect of life on your planet.”
What does the evolution of consciousness mean? I’ve learned that it means to mature toward the ability to feel, express, and manifest our spiritual natures in everyday life. This personal development is not in isolation, because interconnection is part of our spiritual nature.
We are all here to learn to experience spiritual oneness and our human individuality at the same time. Without attunement to oneness, individual selfishness dominates, which ultimately is not sustainable on this planet.
Curiosity is an invigorating and powerful spiritual principle. It can motivate us to discover what is true and it turns life into an adventure stimulated by the desire to learn and experience. Learning transforms adversity from just plain difficult to having valuable meaning.
Little children are naturally curious, so of course we all know that feeling. But all too often as adults daily concerns crowd out the experience of curiosity. How can we cultivate curiosity and rekindle that childlike emotion?
One approach is to train our minds to ask questions of ourselves and others. Rather then telling others what you think, ask them about their ideas. Be inquisitive about your day, your outer environment, your inner life, and others. Notice how rich your life becomes when curiosity propels you through your day.
Many years ago on a beautiful summer day, I was alone enjoying weeding my flower garden, when a guide gently whispered to me: “The joy you are feeling is touching all of life.” This experience reinforced my understanding that we are all one. Our feelings, thoughts, and actions are not in isolation, but rather interconnected.
I believe our worldʼs environmental challenges are begging us to pay attention and learn the essential spiritual lesson of interconnection. Nature is communicating that if we continue to focus on our individual desires without considering interconnection and the common good – we will all suffer.
When the crown chakra located at the top of the head is healthy and functioning well, we feel glad to be alive, inspired by many things, and a sense of connection whether we are alone or with others.
However, the crown chakra can become diminished or dominant within the interconnected system of the seven chakra centers. When diminished, it is common to feel discouraged, depressed, closed minded, a sense of isolation – simply put – not having a good time.
When the crown is dominant, feelings of fun and excitement can be linked to an avoidance of responsibility and cause a lack of attention to detail or a carefree invincible feeling that can become dangerous.
For any chakra to be fully healthy it must function in accord with all the centers. My book “The Wisdom of the Chakras” explains the interconnection and tools to achieve this healthy state.
So many people struggle with weight issues. I have found that eating fresh, whole foods that are nutritionally dense for breakfast, lunch, and dinner is the key to maintaining a healthy weight. This means giving up processed foods and mostly cooking at home.
When we cook our own food we can keep the ingredients simple and pure. Our tastes can change. Many years ago, I could not imagine eating broccoli without cheese sauce. Over time I have grown to enjoy foods for their own flavor without having to dress them up or camouflage their natural tastes.
We are creatures of habit, but new habits can be formed and enjoyed.
Today I was thinking about why my guides say, “Pain is the wrecking crew that destroys the old so the new can be built.” It seems to me that when we are suffering we often go deeper and deeper into ourselves getting to the essence of what is important and the essence of what we fear.
This process can be transformative even while it is difﬁcult. This greater depth can bring us in contact with feeling spiritual principles such as compassion for others, love rather than competition, courage to problem solve, and a willingness to change.
When you are suffering it can be helpful to ask, “How is this experience meant to transform me?”
Many people use the phrase “stay in the moment.” The idea of focusing on the moment is not a favorite concept of mine. I think there is a lot of confusion about what it means to be present versus being in the moment.
To me being present is a state of being alert, focused, and aligned within our selves, while being in the moment can be about not investigating the past or consciously developing the future. Many people have anxiety about past memories and fear the uncertainty of the future. But this is not a reason to avoid them.
We are meant to review and learn from our past and hold a vision of a positive future to work toward. What is most important is working through fears.
I was recently tuning into someone who was on morphine after surgery and was surprised to feel that their drug experience felt similar to a fabulous meditation. Both expansive, a feeling of ecstasy, pure positivity with no fear. On reflection, I felt there were a few lessons to be gleaned from the comparison of drugs and meditation, although I do believe that morphine can be a godsend in the right situation.
Becoming a quality meditator takes practice and work, while taking a drug is easy with little effort required. Choosing a short cut can come with a very big price – drugs ultimately harm the body, while meditation helps heal the body.
However, meditation can be used as a drug, a way of feeling good while avoiding lifeʼs challenges. The open crown chakra in meditation can give us the experience of heaven while on earth. There are two approaches that I emphasize for integrating spiritual awareness into everyday living. One is using meditation in an asking and listening process to receive insight about the profound and the mundane. Two, to use the third eye of discernment in tandem with deep listening as way of navigating life wisely without avoidance.
Many books contradict each other about what constitutes a healthy diet. One says, eat only raw food, another, eat like a hunter and gatherer, vegan is best, eat for your blood type and on and on. What are we to do if we want to be healthy?
My perspective is that not every body needs the same diet for a variety of reasons, which is why I donʼt make broad sweeping generalizations. My approach is muscle testing, applied kinesiology. This is a very simple technique that can be used by family and friends to check one another to see which food weaken muscles and which do not.
I have found through muscle testing that there are foods that always make me strong, foods that sometimes make me strong, and foods that never make me strong. So it is helpful to muscle test foods periodically, for the results can change.
Google muscle testing and learn how to do it. It is a fun, informative, and accurate way to arrive at the diet which is best for you.
Itʼs not uncommon for people to be afraid to make a judgment call for fear of being judgmental. However, the ability to make a clear judgement is really synonymous with wisdom, while being judgmental is based in the comparison of being better than or less than, inferior or superior.
Being judgmental breeds loneliness, a separation from the feeling of interconnection or spiritual oneness. My guides say that happiness comes from the feeling of connection, connection with our inner core, connection with others, and connection with the oneness.
I like to envision a little me over my shoulder who watches to see if I am being judgmental or firmly anchored in the stability of clear judgements as I move through my day. You might want to watch yourself too.
How do you know when you know? We have so many voices attempting to influence our decisions and direction. Perhaps good intentioned family and friends and some not so good intentioned corporations or individuals with vested interests.
Not only do we have a huge number of outside influences, but the fear of making a mistake can generate a number of contradictory internal voices. What are we to do?
It is impossible to make intellectual rules about decisions and direction when life situations are not stagnant but always changing and nuanced. As my guides say, “Be the one who listens fully to self.” Not the superficial self, the influenced self, or the frightened self, but the core of our being, our inner spirit.
I love hearing the perspective of others, because the process of being open helps me to refine the questions that I ask myself. Then I take the important questions deep within my being and feel, listen, and look for the knowing that is in harmony with my core and of course my core is in harmony with the oneness.
I often feel that life in the material world is a “clean, dirty, rot, rust existence.” Life demands a great deal of maintenance from us. We clean our house only to have it get dirty again, we clean our bodies but the clean feeling doesn’t last very long, we organize our paper work or computer only to have to do it again and again. We paint our house – it peels, gardens need to be weeded often and on and on.
Often people desire ease – to hire someone to do the chores, to go out to dinner so there wonʼt be the need to make the effort or take the time to shop, cook, and clean. Maintenance work is not very valued and is often seen as a waste of time that could be better spent on progress, creativity, or innovation, the things that are more important and lucrative.
However, there are many lessons to be learned from the mundane tasks of daily life. I do my best creative thinking while I clean the house, plus this is a time that my guides talk to me. Making dinner for a family or loved ones is an opportunity to express love. Embracing maintenance can slow us down to smell the flowers, bring the peace of humility, and help us to discover that living a fulfilling life is linked to enthusiasm for humble tasks and great adventures.
Imagine accepting everything. Accepting what you like, what you donʼt like, accepting yourself and others. Accepting chemicals in a river, financial injustices, diseases in small children, even our worst regrets.
My guides say that acceptance is not complacency, but simply an acknowledgement of what is. When we deeply acknowledge what is – we stop fighting and or we stop avoiding – we can find peace. From peace, turbulent emotions stop, we become strong and calm. With deep looking and an absence of nervousness and anger insights naturally emerge and then appropriate actions become apparent.
The word “spirituality” means different things to different people. I define a person involved with spirituality as someone concerned with the spiritual side of life and how knowledge from these other realms affect life in our world.
We must develop sensitivities to experience the non-physical side of life. As children we came into the world with these sensitivities and gradually they get conditioned out of us, but they can be regained.
Understanding the meaning of spirituality is best when coming from direct experience. The conditioning of our educational system is all about the analytical mind, and yet to have direct spiritual experiences we need to turn off our analytical mind and listen.
Think about how long it took you to learn to read and what an incredible tool it is for enjoyment, survival, a basic for life. Take some time to learn to meditate or practice meditation. It too is a tool for enjoyment, survival, a basic for life, and a key for understanding spirituality.
Newness is a concept with many benefits. Newness is seeing situations and circumstances anew. This way of perception puts us in the moment – we then see something as if for the first time. A stance that lifts us out of the ordinary and allows for growth and change and development.
Newness brings clarity and appreciation of what is and frees us from the conditioning and the attitudes that limit awareness.
Take time this new year to see your life anew, with fresh eyes. Remember that perception informs feelings and our feelings will inform our actions.
I love the Jesus story. From my perspective Jesus was a remarkable man. He was able to remember who he was as spirit and stay emotionally connected to spiritual principles in the midst of being rejected and tortured. In the story, he didn’t stay in hurt when he wasn’t appreciated and compensated for his love and effort, but instead he accepted the limitations of others not yet enlightened. Wow: what an attainment.
My guides say that true fulfillment is the actualization of our spiritual nature with consistency and not necessarily getting what we want. I believe that Jesus achieved this self-actualization, which is why he is one of the many masters.
His birth which is celebrated at Christmas time is a reminder that rebirth, renewal, and opportunities for growth and change are available to us all. It is never too late to bring our best self to life.
Our fundamental attitudes form the foundation of our approach to life, individually and collectively. As a culture we have been greatly influenced by Darwinʼs view of the survival of the fittest, a philosophy that places an emphasis on competition as a way of measuring our value and achieving excellence.
When I meditate on competition as a way of measuring our value I experience how incredibly isolating that mode of operating can be. A competitive approach to life turns everyone into a potential rival, threatening to oneʼs well being and success. How is it possible to want the best for everyone when we are in competition?
From a oneness perspective or a spiritual view of life, everyone is part of an interconnected whole, with each individual having purpose and a part to play. From a spiritually attuned place the internal questions change from “How can I get ahead?” to “Who am I and why am I here?”
My guides define materialism as valuing material things above spiritual principles. I love beautiful things, quality fabrics, houses with nooks and crannies, enough money to feel generous and free to make choices. Enjoying the material world isnʼt materialism, but rather part of our purpose in coming to an earthly realm.
But when the desire for money and things becomes a justification to turn a blind eye to the ramification of our actions that harm others and our environment then the line is crossed into materialism. It isnʼt easy to discern what is life supportive and what isnʼt in a complex world where the parts for one product are made in many different locations.
Two favorite affirmations that I use surrounding my relationship to things is first a quote from Paramahansa Yogananda, “Have few things, wash frequently.” and a quote from my former mother-in-law, “When youʼre poor you can only afford the best.” My interpretation of the last quote is when you buy quality things you keep them for a long time and often pass them down to others, saving money, not wasting, and with more enjoyment.
Emotional repression can be very sneaky. Repression can be used consciously or unconsciously as a self protective mechanism to avoid looking at mistakes or because of not wanting to confront the feelings that come up from honest self examination.
My guides say that people often perceive through the lens of their own issues, coloring clarity and creating confusion. When focused from the solar plexus our individual lens of perception is clouded over by unresolved emotional problems from this life and others.
This is why it is so important to scrutinize our feelings and motivations with the lucidity of meditation. My guides say, “Stay current in addressing personal concerns from the clarity of deep listening and perception from the third eye.” This approach breaks the karmic pattern of reactions from fear and moves us into the actualization of our spiritual potential.
A spiritually attuned life is a circuitous route, rather than a bee-line to a goal. When we listen deeply and focus deeply in our decision making process the choices we make are not always logical in the short term. This approach I sometimes refer to as following the bouncing ball or the crumbs on the path.
Deep listening and deep looking are the fundamental skills that allow us to know our spiritʼs desire and our personal path of purpose, fulfillment, and learning.
Personally I have found this approach to life is an adventure which fosters remarkable outcomes that go beyond the capacity of my logical mind.
Today I reflected on the innumerable times my guides have corrected my thoughts and words, reprimanded me for inappropriate actions, and given me constructive criticisms for the purpose of making me sharply aware and loving, rather then self-sabotaging or energetically destructive.
Their criticisms have greatly outweighed their compliments and yet I have always felt their unswerving belief in my ultimate goodness and their desire for my best interest at heart. They have been truly loving.
When I approach relationships this way, people are often defensive and canʼt believe that pointing out weaknesses is kind and an appropriate thing to do. Yet if we donʼt give each other honest feedback our blind spots can stay blind.
What would it be like to not get emotionally hurt, when people are not being the way we would like them to be? How would we relate differently if we weren’t wishing others to be just how we want them to be?
My guides say, “Emotional hurt is self-imposed, because we are attached to how we want things to be.” From a spiritual perspective everyone has choice. We can influence, but we canʼt control.
There is a great sadness that engulfs our world. It is possible to step out of this sadness into a universal perspective. Embrace that which is given to you for it is your process of evolution. Enter into acceptance and with it will comes a deeper understanding. Remember acceptance is not complacency, but simply an acknowledgment of what is. From this allowing comes peace and the clarity of appropriate action. So in fact, deep acceptance dissipates fear and brings us into greater involvement with life.
When we meditate and get in touch with our inner essence, our spirit, it becomes easy to love ourselves. Our spirit is always good by its very definition and part of the power of meditation is that we can have direct connection to our core. When we make contact with our spirit the feeling of inadequacy falls away.
If on the other hand, we try to antidote not feeling good about ourselves through our behavior alone, it always falls short. We are human, we make mistakes, we are moody, some people like us and some donʼt. Chasing the feeling of consistent self-esteem from the human condition alone is quite demanding and disappointing.
When we feel our core essence—self-esteem just is. And remarkably with this awareness our behavior becomes a reflection of our positive attitude.
I always say there are three fundamental questions to ask about a relationship. It doesn’t matter whether the relationship is a spouse, a sibling, or a person at work. These questions apply to all relationships. The questions are: What do I want if this relationship were ideal? What am I willing to work with if the relationship is not ideal? And what is unacceptable?
If we continue in a relationship when the circumstance feels unacceptable then we start to become bitter, hurt, angry, and unhealthy. It is important to define what we want while recognizing that relationships give us opportunities for growth, individually and collectively.
If you are in a relationship that is not ideal, but has positive potential for growth and improvement – What do you do? This is where attunement come in, because every situation is different. Use deep listening and deep focus to guide you wisely in your relationships.
We are a culture that values action above waiting, speaking above listening, and striving above acceptance. All of the preferred qualities are directive or often refereed to as the masculine principles. While nurturing, allowing, and supporting, as well as the feminine receptive principles mentioned, are often seen as weakness.
Ideally each of us should experience and express the synthesis of the active and receptive principles. We all have male and female qualities within. When we are able to act or wait, speak or listen, strive and accept, we then have an inner core of balance, an ability to discern appropriateness without being pushy or passive. In this state of being there is neither neediness nor the desire to control. Wholeness and being a positive influence are the byproducts of this attainment.
One of my favorite phrases from a guide is, “Do whatʼs obvious and let the rest unfold.” Life is a complex interconnected evolution. When we rush to make something happen we can miss the fullness of possibility. The process of rushing and not paying attention to the interconnected cosmic timing of events can diminish potential, learning, and spiritual attainment.
I was once told, “Donʼt you want to wait until all the dominoes are lined up – so only one push will be needed for a big impact.” Work with spirit through deep listening and deep looking rather than trying to take control. If you work with spirit life events will grow in meaning and significance.
If happiness is an open crown chakra, what does that actually mean? The crown chakra at the top of the head becomes closed when we feel discouraged, worried, or afraid. To me depression is an extreme state of discouragement. So happiness is actually an absence of these emotions.
We have three options when it comes to dissipating discouragement, worry, and fear. We can change our attitude, change our situation, or both. Even though every situation is different and deep listening and deep focus are needed to discern – the general rule is to ask what am I to learn from my situation and given what is what am I to do?
In the midst of discouragement, worry, and fear it is important not too become too tolerant of the status quo, but rather be a proactive problem solver. Life becomes an adventure when we meet our challenges.
I turned on my kitchen radio to listen to NPR while making dinner last night and heard a novelist being interviewed. She recounted the story that had inspired her novel about a situation where she had been unkind and insensitive to the feelings of a girl with a facial deformity. The novelist commented that she had learned, “If you need to make a choice between being right and being kind, choose kind.”
This comment made me think about my guide’s distinction between what is universal and what is unique. And how often people take personal experiences or insights and then make broad sweeping generalizations. My guides say, “Be like a zephyr, be like a hurricane, steady like an oak, and bend like a willow.” Appropriate behavior stems from the understanding that there is not one right way to be, every response needs to be seen within the context of the circumstance.
Remember to take time to bask in the force of spirit that is always around us. If we pause throughout the day to connect with the consciousness of oneness – so many concerns will fade away – so many confusions will cease. Feel the emersion of spirit for peace, clarity, and comfort.
One of our modern challenges is the tendency to rush and to feel that there is more to do then we can possibly accomplish at a proper pace. But if you allow yourself to move within an appropriate rhythm and not rush, you shall find that your access to spiritual insight and the feeling of connectedness will grow.
Truth is a spiritual principle. The truth is not always pretty, plus it is not always easy to know what the real truth is. If the truth shall make us free, but the truth isnʼt pretty and it is hard to know–what do we do?
We must be willing to deal with the inner and outer conflict that arises with the examination of truth and simultaneously know that our version of the truth is really our convictions, and that convictions evolve. Therefore, be expressive and honest about your convictions while maintaining a willingness to have those convictions change. This means letting go of being right and instead making growth and liberation through greater connection to truth the priority.
Many years ago I was bit by a dog, quite badly, in my right leg. It took a few weeks before I could walk normally and I needed to take an antibiotic. The most interesting part of the experience was that many months after the event my right leg would shake when around a strange dog. Even when my mind was quite clear that the dog posed no threat, my leg still seemed to be afraid. It was from this experience that I started to think about cellular memory and the complexity of trauma.
What I decided to do was to talk to the cells in my leg, reassuring them that I would take care of them and they could now relax, while holding the attitude that cells have consciousness too. Each time I was near a dog I would talk to my leg and gradually my leg stopped shaking around canines.
Repetition is how we heal. It is through the repetition of clear and appropriate attitudes that our fearful attitudes transform. Whatever emotional traumas you sustain can be transformed through the repetition of clear thoughts and feelings based in a broad spiritual understanding.
All craves and addictions are a solar plexus problem: in other words, all craves and addictions have an imbalanced emotional underpinning. Through the years I have been able to energetically pull craves and addictions out of peopleʼs solar plexus chakras in order to help them change negative habits. This healing technique has taught me that certain craves and addictions are associated with specific emotional patterns. For example, salt craves are linked to feeling overly responsible, and sugar craves are linked to the desire to feel more loved. Excessive drinking comes from emotional overwhelm and not knowing how to deal with emotions in a healthy way, and therefore choosing avoidance and numbness.
It can be helpful to think of a crave as an emotional message. Ask yourself, “What do I really want?” Deep listening, meditation and deep looking, the third eye will help you discern. Then the next question becomes, “What do I need to accept and what can I manifest with will and drive?” We can not always get what we want, but we can always manifest our spiritʼs desire. Finding inner peace and emotional balance is within reach.
One way to bring more spontaneity into life is through variety. Variety is the spice of life, because it can be fun and inspiring. Whether it is a vacation, a new kind of food, or a new sweater. However, if we have variety without any repetition or repeated structure then we become unstable. Like traveling without a home or wanting new things all the time to such a degree that we become financially at risk.
The synthesis of a repeated structure and variety creates a feeling of being secure and expansive. Another way of talking about this is the synthesis of discipline and spontaneity. So create systems and exceptions to the rules. The systems create ease and security and the exceptions bring the variety that is the spice.
Examine your life. Do you have a nice balance of structure and variety?
Who will hold the emotional standard? I so often observe people who are kind and good intentioned but disappointed and in reaction to the environment and the behavior of others. If we are balanced and then react to others who are not, we lose our balance and become victims of circumstance.
Mastership is about sustaining the actualization of our spiritual nature in the midst of the ups and downs of life. Obviously this is not easy to achieve. How many masters do we see walking around? But regardless, this is the key to personal fulfillment and the direction that life pushes us whether we like it or not.
We are never alone. Guides and spiritual helpers are around all of us or can get to us at the speed of thought. Therefore we can ask for help in the midst of our human challenges and lessons. Sometimes help will come in a direct form, invisible hands on our shoulders to protect us, a voice of clarity, or a vision of the future. Sometimes help from guides comes in an indirect form, a book that falls off a shelf opened to the exact page with an important message, or a supportive friend who gets the impulse to reach out after years of separation, or hearing just the right phrase that brings insight spoken by a stranger as they walk past you on the sidewalk.
All of these examples can be orchestrated help from guides. So remember you are never alone, reach out in your mind when you need help, and pay attention to the fact that help comes in many forms.
My guides say that the three causes of disease are attitudes, our inner and outer environment, which includes genetics, and past life karmic patterns. With effort we ultimately have control over our attitudes, but only partial control over the environmental influences, while karmic patterns are established and are being brought to the surface through personal life events to be worked on and worked through.
Our environmental challenges are a reminder to all of us that we are interconnected and a collective effort is necessary for healthy changes to occur. I do want to encourage everyone to detox environmental poisons and to become proactive in helping to stop the poisoning of our planet and everyone on it.
The images of both the front side and the reverse side of the Great Seal that Americaʼs founding fathers designed in 1782 can be found on the back of our dollar bill. The reverse side contains the all seeing eye, or what I would call the third eye, and is the Masonic representation of the great architect of the universe.
It is very appropriate that the third eye is on our dollar bill, because the third eye is the center of wisdom and discernment and money is neutral–it needs wisdom to guide its proper use. Money can be used constructively or destructively. When the wisdom of our third eye guides how we spend money and what we do to earn money then its power is used in balance, not falling into self-indulgence or self-denial.
We can feel wonderful or terrible and nothing has changed but the frame of our mind.
Everyday we have an enormous number of thoughts, conscious and unconscious, constructive and destructive. Each of these thoughts affects our well being and the quality of our relationships and our environment. We do not need to be victims or passive before these powerful inﬂuences. With vigilance we can learn to cultivate constructive attitudes and direct them in ways that beneﬁt ourselves and others.
How do we discern what is appropriate to manifest and what is not? When we listen deeply in meditation, without preconceived notions, we can access the spirit and so gain clarity. Also when we focus deeply we can access the spirit, the consciousness of the life force, where clarity in conjunction with oneness resides. More broadly, our individual lives will give us feedback to hone our skill of discernment.
Taking time to listen can be difficult in modern life. We live in a very fast-paced world. When we move too fast, our experiences and interactions become superficial. Taking the time to listen moves us into a depth of understanding and a clarification of what is and isn’t important.
However, it is possible to move quickly and still be in a listening state. Pay attention to the difference between rushing and rhythm, flowing and pushing. It is possible to move quickly, but not be tense and be in a listening state – “make haste slowly.”
My guides say, “The pause between events is where most people get into trouble.” In general, we can handle event A and then event B and so on maybe through the alphabet. But what do you do with the space between events? What do you do with your thoughts? What do you do with your focus? What do you do with your attitudes? We have a lot of pauses between events. Often our conditioning is to spend the time between events worrying about future events and being anxious about past experiences. The tools of inspiration and affirmation can work like a battery charger to prepare us for the next event. Use the pauses as preparation time mentally, physically, and spiritually.
We can receive guidance from the spirit within, the spirit without, and our individual guides. What is the difference? The spirit without is the god force, the oneness, the omnipresent conscious force that is in all things. When we connect with this force through meditation or a powerful moment of inspiration, we get in touch with pure power and even ecstasy. This is the force that healers tap into, this is the force that brings us contact with the feeling of deep spiritual principles.
The spirit within is our little individual part of this god force, our pure essential nature. Even if we were each enlightened, we would still be unique. Itʼs always wise to take an idea, suggestion, or experience into our spirit for ﬁnal conﬁrmation. This way we donʼt give our power away and we take full responsibility for our thoughts and actions.
The beauty of having connection with our individual guides is that they can be very speciﬁc about worldly details, while at the same time they have an overview, a birdʼs eye view that can protect us and guide us through complexity.
In some situations, focus on the oneness, at other times the individual spirit, and know that our guides are available to help too.
Recently I read an article about Sylvia Brown, the famous psychic, which focused on the inaccuracy of many of her predictions and some examples of the negative impact. This commentary reminded me of an interaction with a personal spiritual guide many years ago, when I was advised not to focus on prediction, but rather growth and development. I was told that most people want predictions because they are afraid they are not going to get what they want and that it would be preferable to help people through their fears instead of trying to appease them. We are here on earth to work through fears and learn the interconnection between spiritual principles and worldly application.
Sometimes knowing the future can be helpful. This knowledge may help us be patient, or accepting, or even trusting. Sometimes it is not helpful to know the future, which could activate fear, impatience, or a desire to always control outcomes.
In life there is both destiny and free will choice, some things can be known, while others are yet to be revealed. Also, there are times to know and times where it is best to be veiled.
How do we maintain inner stillness? To really know that whatever has transpired is another opportunity to learn and to look at the situation objectively, to feel the stillness as our identity. Then we can look at an interaction, and say “Ah ha, an opportunity to maintain stillness and to know that if we are not still inside, no matter what we are doing, there is something amiss.” Too often thereʼs a tendency when we have turmoil to blame other people for their actions or their words, but if our stillness is lost, then there is a need to reconnect within ourself.
“Why is it popular to follow the gut?” As a culture we have a tendency to swing from one extreme to the next. When one solution doesnʼt work, we often try the polar opposite. A good example of this can be found in schools, like teaching to the test, and then eliminating tests all together so creativity can ﬂourish.
Staying in the intellect alone does cut us off from our feelings, turning us into insensitive machines. However, if we live from the gut we become feeling individuals in a human experience, often becoming overwhelmed by the complexity of our individual and world circumstance.
I am a proponent of living focused from the third eye in the middle of the forehead. This is the center of wisdom and integrates our intellect and our emotions in the context of a spiritual perspective. We are both Spirit and human!
As I trace people through their incarnations, watching them move back and forth between the material and spiritual realms, I see that there is a tremendous amount of repetition. I observe people making the same errors over and over again, due to focus on attitudes and actions that are not based in spiritual qualities. This creates enormous suffering. However, not at any time do my guides get discouraged or waiver from their belief that all of us shall be successful in the actualization of our spiritual nature, and that all souls eventually will be drawn into light.
I once had a vision of angelic beings in the sky heralding all of humanity into the light. The image reminded me of a medieval painting. In it, masses of people formed a spiral of interconnectedness. As each person moved into light and positivity, they drew all of humanity with them, for they were all linked. No one was separate or isolated. I realized in that moment that when any of us actualizes spiritual qualities, all people are helped and supported in their spiritual journey.
What is universal and what is unique? I often hear about or read about a person who has a personal event and then goes on to make broad generalizations about life and others based on their experience. This can be an imbalanced projection.
When I first started working with my guides they would ask me to compare the difference between conclusions, attitudes, and experiences that where universal and those that were not. They stressed that when people try to turn that which is specific and individual into universal ideas or concepts many problems arise.
Our attitudes form the foundation of our lives and when they are confused we build on shaky ground. One way at discern which attitudes will bring us stability is to recognize attitudes that are universal and apply to all people. These are the building blocks of life.
Unique experiences can be fabulous, but they are ours to enjoy, learn from, and share without projection. We don’t need to make a one size fits all approach to life to find security.
If Spirit, the life force, is omnipresent then it exists in the world of inanimate objects we call things. This means that things have consciousness, which in turn means that we can communicate with them. We can ask and listen to rocks, to our favorite hat, to the teakettle we use every morning to heat water. The presence of Spirit in all things means that each thing is itself and also serves. A chair can be a master. To know that things have Spirit and consciousness brings us appreciation and a gentler way of living. Would you slam a door if you knew it had consciousness?
When we are in the Spiritual realm, we communicate in thought, travel with thought, and manifest with thought. While here on earth we need to make a bigger effort. Without telepathy we need to form our words in voice or in writing. Traveling happens on foot, in a car, a boat, train or plane. Time and money are needed. Manifesting desires takes work and perseverance.
It is important to remember that our learning on earth is linked to strengthening our individual will in alignment with spiritual principles – while putting one foot in front of the other. In other words, working hard to actualize pure desires and potential. This is the realm of work.
Stress is the strain of not being able to accomplish what we want to accomplish. Acceptance can eliminate stress. Ask the question, What can I do given the limitations? Ease comes in when we allow the acceptance of what is. Our culture doesn’t
emphasize this process.
A few attitudes that help with cultivating acceptance. “I am the helper and Spirit does the work.” “Everyone is learning.” “There is cosmic timing.”
Attunement is key. Attunement is the ability to bring into accord our conscious mind and our spiritual nature. Which is why meditation is fundamental. We can’t make hard and fast rules about how to be, or how to respond, or even what is right or wrong. What may be wrong in one situation is extremely appropriate in the next.
Here are two phrases that are opposite and yet both can be true. “Good things happen to those who wait.” and “Those who hesitate are lost.” When we take the time to attune to our inner core we are able to discern and respond with the enlightenment of our spirit’s consciousness to each specific situation, rather than from our cultural conditioning.
The fact is that every aspect of human life is always in newness, even if our negative habits block our experience and recognition of this. No day really is ever the same as any other day. No person is ever the same from day to day. No view of nature is ever exactly the same. This is the point of the famous pronouncement attributed to the Greek philosopher, Heraclitus: “We never step into the same river twice.” By focusing on the nuances of change, which are all around us, we can experience as adults the wonder and curiosity of a child and bring newness into our lives.
I love the story of Jesus. A story of a man who healed the sick, taught wisdom, and lived an example of a spiritual life. He was not rewarded on earth for his talent, compassion, or hard work, but rather tortured, rejected, and not supported by the very people he served.
Yet in the story, he didnʼt become resentful, blaming, or entitled, but probed inside for deeper meaning and learned to attain and sustain spiritual principles and qualities in the midst of great adversity – the ability to rise above the imbalances, ignorance, and injustice, in order to claim the achievement of his personal enlightenment.
At Christmas, may we all be inspired by this drama and move a little closer toward our personal enlightenment.
What is a spiritual principle? It is a constant. A principle that holds life together. It is always appropriate to be compassionate, wise, loving etc….what we are learning as human beings is the integration of spiritual principles into everyday living.
Recognizing what is constant and what is situational is a key to integration. For example, it is always a good idea to be wise, but it is not always a good idea to talk. Wisdom is a constant, talking or not talking is situational. Our ﬁrst error is taking something that is situational and trying to make it into a constant, creating imbalance.
If you look carefully at nature, you will see that it is not always kind. If you get stuck in thinking that the spiritual way is always kind and gentle you will be misguided.
My guides say, “Be like nature, gentle like a zephyr, powerful like a hurricane, steady like an oak, bending like a willow.” There is not one right way to be in all circumstance. Every appropriate behavior is situational. Wisdom and attunement are needed to discern the right way to be.
We so often are taught to be fair and listen to others, but instead be the one who listens to Spirit. To our own deepest essence and the life force that is omnipresent and communicating all around us. If others are confused and afraid then blending will make us confused too.
It is not that you should turn a deaf ear to thoughts and feeling expressed around you, but always listen to your own Spirit for ﬁnal conﬁrmation. Otherwise you give your power away and make the mistakes of others. Meditation is a fabulous tool — use it.
Being human is high maintenance. We have to clean our house, our body, our car, shop, cook, eat, pay bills and manage innumerable challenges, trafﬁc, health, different view points and on and on. Not to mention pesticides, mercury toxicity, wars, ﬁnancial stress, and confused social messages that bombard us on TV, the internet, and from our environment, as well as work related conﬂicts. Living life from the solar plexus, or from the human perspective alone can feel like a tragedy.
Living life from the third eye adds the spiritual perspective. We are all spirit temporarily on earth, learning to bring a positive inﬂuence rather than being in reaction to things not being the way we want. I deﬁne happiness as the actualization of our spiritual nature rather then getting everything we want. From this perspective we are not a victim of circumstance.
Gold light is a color that enlightened individuals emanate, while white light is the light of pure spirit. When I experience white light I feel oneness without any individual qualities. When I experience gold light I feel oneness and individual expressions of that state–such as compassion, clarity, balance, connection, and personality differences, etc.
When we visualize and send gold light to ourselves or another we are sending all the spiritual qualities of an en-lighted state. Visualizing and sending gold light is a tool we can use creatively, to help quiet a crying baby, stimulate open mindedness in a meeting, season a soup with love and positivity– there are inﬁnite uses for this free and powerful substance. Experiment for yourself.
I cannot stress enough the importance of the realization of the power that lies within us. For within each of us there is a generator and just as a generator can create electricity to move things, to bring light, to bring about a multitude of changes, we also have this capacity. Together and united we have the ability to generate a brilliance which can impact many.
Here on the earth many struggle and feel tremendous despair: offer your optimism, offer your insight, and your abilities. For within each of you there is a longing, there is a longing to give where help is needed, to your friends, to those who are only acquaintances, and those who you do not yet know.
When we are sympathetic, good intentions are often present but we become vulnerable to emotional entanglements and sensitive to absorbing other peopleʼs pain and symptoms. These reactions can make us ineffective and confused. In comparison, when we are in a compassionate state we are more objective. This breeds wiser perception and an ability to know that even the most difﬁcult situation has important learning. This objectivity makes it easier to know our appropriate role in the midst of complexity, which ultimately is the most helpful for all concerned.
I have found that the key to self-esteem is the separation of identity and behavior. I am spirit, we are all spirit, therefore consistently good in our essence. Our behavior is our ability to manifest our potential at any given time, which is constantly changing and evolving. I have experienced and observed that when we are in touch with our essential goodness, our behaviors improve, potential develops and most importantly we feel no lack, no longing and no need to prove ourselves. Life becomes all about creativity, learning, and loving.
Resentment is a barometer telling us we need to make a change. The change can be an attitude change or taking a new action. The third eye can help with discernment. It can be easiest to start with an attitude change. However, if sustaining a more positive perspective becomes very difﬁcult then take action.
Another way to think about this is that resentment is a stagnation like a log jam, with movement the stagnation breaks up. First try internal movement, if the log jam persists try external movement. Movement support health, growth, and well being.
Strengthen the attitude, “Given what is, what am I to do.” Donʼt expect harmony in the external situation. Be the light, be the emotional standard, instead of looking for it elsewhere.
Work to sustain a positive inner environment regardless of circumstance. Be like an iceberg majority under the water, minority exposed to the outer environment. This is the image I use to describe a deep, stable inner life that supports the outer life of daily details, challenges, and expression.
Compassion is the pinnacle spiritual principle, so inclusive of other principles, such as peace, balance, acceptance, loving quality, openness and positivity. Hold the vision of being compassionate in all circumstances.
When we donʼt know what to do in a situation, we can always go to compassion. From focus on compassion we go deeper then the surface of events, which can move us out of fear and reaction into wholeness and appropriate action. What we focus on is what we develop.
Make an inspiration list, see it as a tool. What always inspires you? What sometimes inspires you? Weave inspiration into your everyday, ﬂowers on your table, dancing in the living room to your favorite music, helping children, ﬂying an airplane. The power of inspiration shouldnʼt be underestimated. It has the power to keep us feeling connected and glad to be alive. Just remember that everyoneʼs inspiration list is unique. Understanding what inspires another is a key to forming a close relationship.
Integrating letting go into everything – the more we practice letting go of attachments, the more easily we can stay focused in the third eye, the easier it is to take appropriate action. My guides say, “If there isn’t acceptance of where you are, it keeps you there.” Letting go of attachments brings us to acceptance of what is. Then we can decide what to do from balance.
Many years ago I was driving up route 91 into beautiful scenic Vermont when my guide gently whispered to me, “If you want to be truly happy, you must learn to love all people.”
He did not mean that I should invite everyone home for dinner or even that I should necessarily like peopleʼs behavior. But rather develop the ability to perceive the remarkable spiritual essence that resides in everyone, a drunk on the street, a new born baby, an annoying check out clerk, and of course myself in the bathroom mirror.
It is quite easy to feel love when we see and feel the spirit in ourselves and others. After all in our essence we are all quite amazing. Focusing on essence in the midst of daily life is a perception that brings about a feeling of connection and I believe that feeling connected is a key to happiness.
Many people in spiritual circles believe that they can create their own reality, while others believe that our lives are destined. These contradictory philosophies can be quite confusing. My guides say that there is both creative choice and destiny and that some people have more destiny in their lives and others have more creative freedom. I say, “Some people have a long leash life, while others have a short leash life.”
One approach is not more important then the other, it is simply that different lessons apply. A person with more destiny has lessons surrounding patience, trust, timing, while a person with more creative choice is learning to be proactive, conﬁdent, powerful. You can use the third eye and meditation to help you attune to your life situations to determine whether to follow the destiny or create new opportunities. We actually each have some destiny and some choice, wisdom helps us tell the difference. I have had a lot of choice in interior decorating, but not much choice in my career.
The state of openness to the free will choice of others naturally brings us to compassion, out of reaction and into the process of growth. Do not be afraid of the imbalances of others as this is why we’ve come to the earth, to learn, to see, to actualize. It’s important to learn to wish growth rather than happiness. Happiness is the arrival, growth is the process. Most people are not ready to arrive yet; so wish growth.
My approach to learning about the chakras was inspired by French child psychologist Jean Piaget. When I was in college I thought I was going to be a child psychologist and when reading Piaget I was inspired to learn that he began his interest and theories about child psychology through the observation of the development of his own children. I decided when I had children to begin to gather information about human development through my watching as well, but because I had a natural clairvoyance since childhood my examination included watching energy patterns in the chakra system.
Because of my interest in children and education I am thrilled to be partnering with Creative Lives Director Maureen Burford. Maureen is integrating concepts and techniques from my chakra book into her training of educators and programming for youth. Together we are working on “A Framework for Wise Education: Based on the Chakra System.”
My guides say, “When you are having a hard time go back to basics.” The basics they refer to include the disciplines of the body, mind, and spirit. Make sure you get enough sleep, eat well, and get some exercise. Create some order, pay bills, fold laundry, work on a project. Do some meditation, cultivate positive attitudes, and of course use your third eye! When our disciplines are strong we feel more stable in our lives and less overwhelmed. Putting the work in – pays off. My guides also say, “Be as disciplined as you can and as spontaneous.” Together they are a wining combination.
Our cultural conditioning emphasizes that we as individuals are not whole or ok if we are not in a partnered relationship. This prevailing social attitude fosters feelings of neediness or sometimes desperation for partnership, as well as creating confused expectations within existing relationships. The affirmation “I am whole and complete in myself. I do not need another to complete me. I come together to share, to learn, to love and create,” when repeated can help antidote our negative conditioning, while healing the identity chakra. Then relationship becomes an enhancement rather than a necessity. This attitude change has wonderful far reaching ramifications.
The knowledge from the intellect, the clarity of the third eye, and the feelings from the solar plexus should work together to form a healthy synergy and attuned choices.
I cannot emphasize too much that the heart chakra is the center of love not the center of discernment. Individuals having difﬁculty making life decisions are often advised to “follow their heart.” Doing so is a problem if a person is focused and operating from the solar plexus chakra rather than the third eye, for then the heart chakra will function as an emotional, reactionary, or needy center, which prevents the heart from giving a clear message. Like the sun that shines on my lawn and yours, the heart radiates without discrimination. “The heart is a radiator not a discriminator.”
When we cultivate an “I am Spirit” consciousness, a by product becomes comfort with personal power and the throat chakra opens and expands. However, often people are afraid to claim their power because they are afraid of either taking responsibility for or accepting the consequence of their actions. Yet if sensitive people do not “speak up” but remain intimidated, they relinquish power to less compassionate or thoughtless individuals.
An open crown chakra without the use of the third eye can actually be dangerous. Like an open trusting child who goes home with a stranger. Without the discernment and wisdom of the third eye, the opened crown chakra will promote trust in life but without discrimination, and thus blind faith can occur. You can see this pattern of blind faith in many kinds of people who follow speciﬁc religious doctrines without questioning the accuracy and appropriateness of the information.
The third eye is like a minerʼs light on the forehead, illuminating each individualʼs life path in the midst of the worldʼs confusion and complexity. The third eye is activated through focus and concentration.
I call the crown chakra “the key to happiness,” for when it is open one experiences expansion and joy. When the crown chakra is open, the feeling that life is good naturally occurs and depression and other painful emotions are alleviated. There exists a sense of trust that experiences have value and purpose – even difficult ones – and that one’s life is a part of a larger evolutionary plan. Inspiration, trust, devotion, and spontaneity all open the crown chakra creating a feeling of spiritual connection.
When we remember that we are Spirit and human then it becomes natural to accept that death is a continuation of life. In our culture, death is commonly viewed as an ending, rather than a completion of one phase and the entering into a new chapter of existence. The awareness that death is not an end allows for greater enjoyment of the entire process of life, including the transition into the spiritual world.
Some people fall in love with potential. The Spirit is magnificent and simple and can be grasped in a flash. The human self is complicated and has many sides and takes time to know. The human condition has enormous complexity. How many different moods, feelings, interactions, and events take place for each of us on just one day? And this happens the world over, for the billions of people in it. All this complexity and variety makes up the human condition.
To understand someone we encounter, we need to see the person’s Spirit and the person’s human condition, we need to see them together. The same holds true if we want to understand ourselves. We need to see our Spirit, which is our essence and potential and our human expression, which is our stage of awareness and actualization at the time.
Many of us are not aware of Spirit because we have been conditioned not to look for it. In our childhood, we were taught to focus on, identify, and name objects, and to look on the surface at how people appear in the world. What you are conditioned to focus on is what you see. We usually were not taught to see the light and energy around objects or to perceive the inner life of people. To see Spirit, we basically need to change our focus, as trivial as that may sound. Then when you concentrate on seeing beneath the surface at the essence, the Spirit, of an individual, it moves to the foreground, and you start to see, feel, and know this essential goodness and beauty in everyone.