We are a culture that values action above waiting, speaking above listening, and striving above acceptance. All of the preferred qualities are directive or often refereed to as the masculine principles. While nurturing, allowing, and supporting, as well as the feminine receptive principles mentioned, are often seen as weakness.
Ideally each of us should experience and express the synthesis of the active and receptive principles. We all have male and female qualities within. When we are able to act or wait, speak or listen, strive and accept, we then have an inner core of balance, an ability to discern appropriateness without being pushy or passive. In this state of being there is neither neediness nor the desire to control. Wholeness and being a positive influence are the byproducts of this attainment.