If we are in emotional balance and then we come into contact with someone who isn’t, perhaps a family member who is angry or a co-worker who is in turmoil, and if we react, we lose our emotional well-being and become trapped in our reaction. No matter how justified we are, we become negatively affected. Essentially this is giving up our power and well-being to those who are confused and struggling.
My guides say, be influential rather than affected. The phrase I use to help me to not be reactionary is, “Given what is, what am I to do?” Remembering to ask myself this question supports me to be proactive, rather than reactive.