If you look carefully at nature, you will see that it is not always kind. If you get stuck in thinking that the spiritual way is always kind and gentle you will be misguided.
My guides say, “Be like nature, gentle like a zephyr, powerful like a hurricane, steady like an oak, bending like a willow.” There is not one right way to be in all circumstance. Every appropriate behavior is situational. Wisdom and attunement are needed to discern the right way to be.