I always say there are three fundamental questions to ask about a relationship. It doesn’t matter whether the relationship is a spouse, a sibling, or a person at work. These questions apply to all relationships. The questions are: What do I want if this relationship were ideal? What am I willing to work with if the relationship is not ideal? And what is unacceptable?
If we continue in a relationship when the circumstance feels unacceptable then we start to become bitter, hurt, angry, and unhealthy. It is important to define what we want while recognizing that relationships give us opportunities for growth, individually and collectively.
If you are in a relationship that is not ideal, but has positive potential for growth and improvement – What do you do? This is where attunement come in, because every situation is different. Use deep listening and deep focus to guide you wisely in your relationships.