I have found that the key to self-esteem is the separation of identity and behavior. I am spirit, we are all spirit, therefore consistently good in our essence. Our behavior is our ability to manifest our potential at any given time, which is constantly changing and evolving. I have experienced and observed that when we are in touch with our essential goodness, our behaviors improve, potential develops and most importantly we feel no lack, no longing and no need to prove ourselves. Life becomes all about creativity, learning, and loving.